Volunteer to Get Your Ex Back
Altruism is one of the quickest ways to a girl’s heart, especially if it is genuine. You have spent so much time being self-absorbed and almost narcissist in nature that it’s time you gave back and what better way than volunteering at a soup kitchen and inviting her to come along. So how would you go about it?
Time for Tantra
Whilst ‘make up sex’ can be exciting, exhilarating, passionate and QUICK, it’s hardly going to be the glue that keeps her by your side or keep you two together. Hard, fast, thrusting is good, but not feasible in the long-term for obvious reasons! This is where Tantric sex comes in. In Tantric sex there is no goal of getting anywhere, of striving for the big “0”. Your approach with your partner is all about awareness and feeling, experiencing the “now”, with your ego dissolving and your heart opening. It’s a form of meditation that lets history dissolve, resentment fade away and anger turn into joy. It’s just what you need to get her back!
However, Tantric takes practice and it takes 2! So you have to convince her to take this journey with you and once you have both gone down this path, there will be no turning back. It’s not some huge mystery as most people seem to think and neither do you have to wait until you know it all. Every little step you take in this direction brings its own rewards and on this journey, you get to know yourself intimately first and then that of your partner, by exploring first the physical, the emotional and finally the spiritual.
If you explain this procedure to your ex, she is going to be spell bound and most definitely curious. Inviting you ex to your home to try out Tantra, requires her trust in you so don’t blow it! The first thing you need to do is design an “intimacy space”. Start off slow with a light intimate dinner and then proceed to this “space” which should be comfortable, relaxed and clear of clutter. It needs to be decorated with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics and the additional ambiance created by the scent should be of natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Choose a soundtrack of music that you both like to be played as soft background music.
The next step is intimate and involves breathing each other’s breath. Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. Whatever you do, do not lose control – this is critical!
Take it Slow!!! Foreplay is essential in Tantra. A slow build will not only help you maintain your erection but it will intensify her arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.
Whilst all this erotic foreplay is building, maintaining eye contact is essential. You are going to make love with your eyes open as the ultimate display of your deep connection with your ex and the level of your intimacy. It will be a challenge particularly as the sensations of pleasure heighten. When the two of you finally make love, you’ll find the love making profoundly transformative and move each other in ways you could never imagine. You will have no need to worry as to whether she would accept your second invitation to “dinner”.
Make Up Date Night at Home
Entering into the Winter solstice in USA gives us the perfect opportunity for romantic make – up date ideas – just think: fireplaces, snugly duvets, hot chocolate, romantic movies and comfort foods like pizza and pasta. Here are some great ideas for getting cozy this winter. You can either organize them together as a couple (provided she has warmed up to you after the last fall out), or you can use it as an excuse to create a sense of “togetherness” or “
If you or your partner has kids then the number one priority is finding a good baby sitter – or leaving the kids with their doting grandparents for the evening. After that, the night is all yours.
If the evening is a surprise for her, you can make her feel extra-special by organizing the movie night around her favorite things. My suggestion would be to choose a romantic “chick-flick” type movie and order her favorite take-out. Also, don’t even think about forgetting her favorite ice-cream or dessert!
Romantic movie night means popcorn and junk food – so stock up on all of these. The more choice there is, the more she will see how much effort has been involved. Before she gets home, make sure everything is neat and tidy and that she does not have to do any work. You want her relaxed and pleasantly surprised.
Set up the sitting room/television area with comfortable cushions and warm blankets – you could even put a mattress on the floor. Before you start the movie, chat about the good old days, about how the two of you met and what you thought at that moment. Look back at the travels and enjoyable times you two had together and all the fun moments. If need be, bring out the photo albums and browse through pictures of the two of you together and recall what was happening when that picture was taken. This is all part of the warm-up for later.
Refill the wine/champagne/snifter glasses, dim the lighting and press play.
Finally, when the movie is over and there is this “awww geesh” kind of feeling in the air, gets up silently, switch on the CD and invite your lady to dance with you to your favorite song.
I can assure you after everything else that has preceded the evening, this will be the clincher!
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice in his book. Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.
Yummy Yoga for Two
So you want to “reunite” with your ex do you? Well why not try something different with your ex. If you can persuade her to attend a yoga class with you, or better yet, hire a yoga DVD, shoot out and purchase 2 Yoga mats and send her an invitation directing time, place and attire, it is bound to pique her curiosity.
You could start off by telling her what Yoga means, which is that the word Yoga is derived from the Sanskrit word "Yuj" meaning to yoke, join or unite. This implies joining or integrating all aspects of the individual - body with mind and mind with soul - to achieve a happy, balanced and useful life, and spiritually, uniting the individual with the supreme. You do want to “reunite” with her but you need to seek some balance first. What better way that to use Yoga to achieve both these objectives?
Not only will Yoga help you relax while toning and strengthening your muscles, but done in the privacy of your home, you can start off slowly by following three simple exercises that are user-friendly, fun and good for you. Obviously the ambience is important so lighting some scented candles, dimming the lights, or burning some subtle incense can certainly add to the “mood” you are trying to create.
The idea is to do these exercises together at first, helping each other out. In other words, you stand either next to, in front of or alongside one another. This is what I mean by creating a sense of unity or “reuniting”. Not only will be she be reassured that you are there to help her if she falls but as you are both novices in the art of Yoga, doing these simple exercises together should create a sense of fun, excitement and make her realize you are prepared to try something new and possibly totally foreign to you. The three simple, easy to follow exercises are:
Place your hands and your knees on the floor, your palms should be flat with your fingers extended forward and should be ever so slightly forward of the line of your shoulders. Inhale deeply, filling your lungs with air. As you exhale lift your knees off the ground so that you are standing on your hands and toes. Inhale deeply once more and as you exhale try to touch the floor with your heels. Don’t force this, just stretch as far as is comfortable. While in this position concentrate on breathing deeply and remain there for fifteen seconds.
Sit on your yoga mat and spread you legs as wide as they will comfortably stretch, forming a V shape, with your hands on the floor in front of you. Make sure that you are sitting up straight as you inhale deeply. As you exhale move your hands forward as if walking and start to lean forward, your chest moving toward the floor as far as is comfortable. From this position take three deep breaths before slowly uncurling to your upright sitting position. Repeat this exercise three times for the best effect.
Sit up straight on your yoga mat and bring your feet together in front of you so that the soles are touching. Inhale deeply and as you exhale place your hands on your toes and very gently pull your heels closer toward you. Inhale once more and as you exhale lean forward while keeping your back straight as long as you are comfortable. Concentrate on deep inhalation and exhalation while you hold this pose for one minute before slowly returning to an upright seated position.
If the exercises not only work in relaxing both of you, then it could be a fun couple thing to do in attending further yoga classes. These 3 simple moves can be done in a pair as well as individually and you’d be surprised at how relaxed, content and good you both will feel once you have attempted them a few times. These yoga moves are a perfect excuse to make “amends” and “reunite” with your loved one.
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice in his book, Getting Her Back. Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.
Take a Sensual Cooking Class for Two
There is no doubt that food is seduction and that all luscious sexual inferences and allusions litter the bed-sheets of gastronomy. Yes we all know that it’s purportedly via the stomach that we aim for his or her heart – and as we are winning her back, the more delectable region of her anatomy.
So we are talking provocative cuisine – or even better yet, cooking classes just for two. In case you hadn’t heard, cookbooks have become the new erotica. We all know sex sells, but combining sex and food. Ooh la la! This is where you come in.
You extend an invitation to your kitchen goddess keeping in mind the image of her naked, wearing an apron only, licking that spoon. The fact that the spoon is Freudian metaphor is just the tip of the iceberg, or should I say, the “icing on the cake”.
A little imagination, a trip to the costume hire store or even the store that sells aprons and chef hats, a downloaded menu that is simple, seductive and easy to follow, a well orchestrated trip to the grocer to ensure you have all the ingredients, the accompanying wine, a pre-laid table, seductive music and soft lighting and you are ready.
Upon her arrival at the door, you hand her the apron and chef’s hat and you ensure that the entire “gastronomic” experience is a subtle blend of seductive fun. Flirt with her the entire time, maintain eye contact, drop subtle innuendos particularly if using phallic type foods such as carrots, cucumbers, sausages, bananas…etc. A few “French” names, for example “poisson en croute avec” thrown in for effect can be far more seductive than the English equivalent of “stodgy fish pie” or ”
When passing her, stretching for utensils, putting aside the dirty dishes, make sure you are constantly in contact with her body, occasionally kiss her ear, her neck, nibble her ear lobe, gently caress her buttocks, so that you entire physical being is seducing her whilst the two of you are standing apart. If you persist with this lavish attention, you’ll find her inner oven ready for baking long before the starters have been served and she is more than willing to nibble on your “banana surprise”.
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice in his book, Getting her back. Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.
Making Up Ideas
Romantic Weekend Away –
Yes, weekends away are expensive, but special occasions should be celebrated and what’s more, you are trying to win her back. What could be more special than that? It is important to plan ahead, save up (if necessary borrow from your friend if urgency doesn’t permit you the luxury of time). If
If you are not eating inside the room/hotel or where-ever you are staying, make sure you eat dessert in front of the fire place so take your own, either chocolate mousse or strawberries and cream, but definitely something she would enjoy and USE it, don’t just eat it! That’s what belly-buttons are for – collecting excess chocolate mousse that needs a serious ‘licking’.
At Home – Dinner for Two
This one involves a little more effort, but is great if you want to show off your culinary skills! If not, make sure you cook something simple, alternatively, organize the meal to be cooked elsewhere and delivered before time. A great dish is also the fondue – a feast for two. When you organize this romantic make-up dinner party for start with hand-written invite on your partner’s pillow in the morning, or if she has moved out, an enticing email or text in the afternoon.
Dress smartly for the occasion (clothing items can always be removed later on) and make sure you plan well ahead. Set the mood with her favorite music, turn the heat up in the kitchen. If you are intending to cook, invite her to join in but no bossing allowed! The sense of accomplishment after cooking a delicious meal together will help bring you and her closer together, particularly if things have been somewhat strained. By the end of the evening, if all goes according to plan, she’d willingly agree to a shared bubble bath or sensuous massage.
Lip O' Seduction
You’ve got her to agree to going on a make up date with you but you are both aware of the need to the trust between the two of you to be rebuilt. So it’s time to take it slow. Agree on the limitations between the two of you upfront so there is no misunderstanding because believe you me, when you have finished with your lips, she’ll be begging for it!
Okay so agreement at hand, decision to take it slow right! However taking it slow doesn’t necessarily mean just holding hands. You’d be surprised as to how erotic, exciting and anticipatory restricting your physical contact can actually be.
There are many types or sorts of kissing that dangle on a continuum that ranges from foreplay to after play like a g-string on a wash line. These kisses range from playful kisses like the chocolate kiss to the cold, peeled grapes kiss. Have I got your attention now?
The Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kisses, but now is your time to invent more! Pay attention to the areas of her body you have neglected before. Just because you are kissing her doesn’t mean you have to restrict yourself to her lips. Why don’t you pay lavish attention to her legs, working your way along her legs, always remembering your self-control. Start at her little toes, to the top of her leg, then back down to her ankles, knees and so on, occasionally blowing against the back of her legs, alternating between hard and lighter breaths. This technique is sure to leave her begging for more!
There is also the Chocolate Kiss. What women wouldn’t enjoy this one? It’s always best to use a smooth, creamy chocolate that melts easily in your mouth. The smoother the better, obviously! Once the chocolate starts to melt, kiss her and twirl your tongues around hers.
One could also use hard but small pieces of
Other creative contributors to “sweet kisses” are caramel, strawberries and cream, which involve the seductive licking of spoons, feeding one another strawberries, exchanging the strawberries with the whipping cream between each other’s mouth.
Champagne or fizzy drink can provide a different sensation so the more fizz, the better. When you are ready to kiss her, take a sip and keep some in your mouth, dribble some into your partners’ mouth gently so that you share more than spill into one another’s mouth.
Okay, so we’ve spoken about lips, but what’s inside the lips besides the tongue are the teeth. Now that’s an interesting thought. Starting slowly, simply graze parts of her body as you kiss her, using the edges of your teeth almost like fingernails, or as you would your tongue, lightly tickling her shoulders, arms and hands. Suck on each one of her fingers and, as you remove them from your mouth, softly apply pressure using your teeth.
If she enjoyed this, try lightly biting the back of her neck or other body parts in between passionate kissing. Don’t overdo it and remember, when you feel you are going to lose control – STOP! Your agreement was to take it slow, to build trust and I can assure you, by the time the next date night arrives, she will be ready to jump your bones!
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back