Tips from Michael Webb Books - Volunteer to Get Your Ex Back

Volunteer to Get Your Ex Back

Altruism is one of the quickest ways to a girl’s heart, especially if it is genuine. You have spent so much time being self-absorbed and almost narcissist in nature that it’s time you gave back and what better way than volunteering at a soup kitchen and inviting her to come along. So how would you go about it?

Well firstly you would have to convince her how much you have changed and how having had her out of your life had made you realize how much and how many people you took for granted. This had brought you to the realization that one of the ways you could give back to society was to volunteer for a worthwhile cause and that to prove this; you wanted her to come along and experience the wonderful gift of giving alongside you.

With a little research on a volunteer database, you can contact the soup kitchen to see what they need. If it’s around holiday time, they might have an overflow of volunteers so see if there are any other services you could help with. Find out which shifts work best for you and her and do research on the lifestyle of the homeless and hungry so that you can have a meaningful conversation with the people who make use of these kitchens.

Make sure you use meaningful eye contact, smile readily and friendly and you can rest assured that not only is this type of behavior contagious, but it will extend through to your ‘renewed’ relationship with your ex. You can rest assured that she will be looking at you with “new eyes”.

Engaging in meaningful conversation is not only a considerate thing to do but shows those with whom you are communicating that you value them as human beings. This will be evidenced by her standing beside you, observing you in these interactions and it will also broaden your own outlook on life and in so doing, impress her and possibly even prevail upon her to investigate and volunteer further for herself. Giving her a sense of achievement, fulfillment even the mere act of helping out is huge in the emotional barometer of forgiveness.

Also find out if the soup kitchen has a food panty and if they do, see if you can organize donations from your local grocery stores, friends, neighbors and the like all in the spirit of giving. Offer to collect the items personally and note that this type of collection is not just seasonal, but donations are required continuously.

Volunteering is cost-effective, a huge producer of what I call “humane endorphins”, a strong basis for the “Dr Feel Good” factor as you are actively doing, feeling and contributing with your loved one by your side. What a wonderful way to “reunite” and reconnect both with each other as well as the community and your sense of giving.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice in Getting Her Back. Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.

Make Up Date Night at Home - Michael Webber Books

Make Up Date Night at Home

Entering into the Winter solstice in USA gives us the perfect opportunity for romantic make – up date ideas – just think: fireplaces, snugly duvets, hot chocolate, romantic movies and comfort foods like pizza and pasta. Here are some great ideas for getting cozy this winter. You can either organize them together as a couple (provided she has warmed up to you after the last fall out), or you can use it as an excuse to create a sense of “togetherness” or “team spirit” in trying to “glue” the relationship back together. Alternatively, for extra romance and excitement as part of your ‘making amends strategy’, you can organize a surprise date for your partner. One suggestion is to have a date at home and call it “Movie Night”.

If you or your partner has kids then the number one priority is finding a good baby sitter – or leaving the kids with their doting grandparents for the evening. After that, the night is all yours.

If the evening is a surprise for her, you can make her feel extra-special by organizing the movie night around her favorite things. My suggestion would be to choose a romantic “chick-flick” type movie and order her favorite take-out. Also, don’t even think about forgetting her favorite ice-cream or dessert!

Romantic movie night means popcorn and junk food – so stock up on all of these. The more choice there is, the more she will see how much effort has been involved. Before she gets home, make sure everything is neat and tidy and that she does not have to do any work. You want her relaxed and pleasantly surprised.

Set up the sitting room/television area with comfortable cushions and warm blankets – you could even put a mattress on the floor. Before you start the movie, chat about the good old days, about how the two of you met and what you thought at that moment. Look back at the travels and enjoyable times you two had together and all the fun moments. If need be, bring out the photo albums and browse through pictures of the two of you together and recall what was happening when that picture was taken. This is all part of the warm-up for later.

Refill the wine/champagne/snifter glasses, dim the lighting and press play.

Finally, when the movie is over and there is this “awww geesh” kind of feeling in the air, gets up silently, switch on the CD and invite your lady to dance with you to your favorite song.

I can assure you after everything else that has preceded the evening, this will be the clincher!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice in his book. Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.

Get Her Back - Tips from Micheal Webb Books

Reinvent Yourself

You’ve broken up with your ex and are either single or with someone new but you know you jumped back into the dating pool too soon. You realize this was a rebound knee-jerk reaction and what’s worse, you can’t get your ex out of your mind. You want her back and you want her back for good! Stick around because not only will I tell you how you can get her back, but how you can improve on your own life and self-image at the same time.

We all know men and women are wired differently – “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus right?”. But what if you could rewire yourself, both physically as well as emotionally! You can and whilst you may not wake up tomorrow a totally new person both physically and emotionally (believe me it doesn’t even happen overnight on those reality television shows), the first step in reinventing yourself to win her back is to START living the life you want to live and being the person you and SHE want you to be.

It can’t be that difficult or too far a reach or disconnect or else she wouldn’t have dated you in the first place right? We are all primed from early childhood, allocated labels, “athletic”, “academic”, “artistic” etc but often these labels are self-fulfilling prophecies that create our identity as opposed to shaping our identity.

Despite the fact that your breakup with your ex might have been the catalyst for your desire to change, self-actualization, or becoming who you need to be is part of life’s evolution. With evolution, your needs change, you acquire wisdom and experience and now you have reached a stage where you need to try something different. You may want to explore a new career, move to a different location, explore other activities and behaviors. In fact, this could also be the reason your relationship with your ex back-fired. Neither of you were getting what you needed. Perhaps she felt unappreciated or bored, and perhaps you found excuses to be away from home. However, the breakup between the two of you is treating the symptom, not the cause.

Take the next couple of days to make a list of all the positive and negative factors in your relationship but at the same time, look after yourself by eating healthily, exercising and getting enough sleep. This time apart allows you to reassess your life, and your possible life together with your ex, objectively. By the time you meet up with your ex she will already begin to see the ‘new emerging you’; and might possibly be inspired to join you. Whatever the situation, it is important to remember that you’re not stuck with who you were in the past. We often feel like who or what we aspire to be has to "make sense." But we're always growing, and taking a leap into a new life is exciting and even better with your ex by your side. It starts off as small steps and it was Confucius who said: “A journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step,” and so to reinvent yourself and your relationship, it’s often the little things that are the first step.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.and come to the website to discover all of Michael Webb Books.