Volunteer to Get Your Ex Back
Altruism is one of the quickest ways to a girl’s heart, especially if it is genuine. You have spent so much time being self-absorbed and almost narcissist in nature that it’s time you gave back and what better way than volunteering at a soup kitchen and inviting her to come along. So how would you go about it?
Time for Tantra
Whilst ‘make up sex’ can be exciting, exhilarating, passionate and QUICK, it’s hardly going to be the glue that keeps her by your side or keep you two together. Hard, fast, thrusting is good, but not feasible in the long-term for obvious reasons! This is where Tantric sex comes in. In Tantric sex there is no goal of getting anywhere, of striving for the big “0”. Your approach with your partner is all about awareness and feeling, experiencing the “now”, with your ego dissolving and your heart opening. It’s a form of meditation that lets history dissolve, resentment fade away and anger turn into joy. It’s just what you need to get her back!
However, Tantric takes practice and it takes 2! So you have to convince her to take this journey with you and once you have both gone down this path, there will be no turning back. It’s not some huge mystery as most people seem to think and neither do you have to wait until you know it all. Every little step you take in this direction brings its own rewards and on this journey, you get to know yourself intimately first and then that of your partner, by exploring first the physical, the emotional and finally the spiritual.
If you explain this procedure to your ex, she is going to be spell bound and most definitely curious. Inviting you ex to your home to try out Tantra, requires her trust in you so don’t blow it! The first thing you need to do is design an “intimacy space”. Start off slow with a light intimate dinner and then proceed to this “space” which should be comfortable, relaxed and clear of clutter. It needs to be decorated with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics and the additional ambiance created by the scent should be of natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Choose a soundtrack of music that you both like to be played as soft background music.
The next step is intimate and involves breathing each other’s breath. Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. Whatever you do, do not lose control – this is critical!
Take it Slow!!! Foreplay is essential in Tantra. A slow build will not only help you maintain your erection but it will intensify her arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.
Whilst all this erotic foreplay is building, maintaining eye contact is essential. You are going to make love with your eyes open as the ultimate display of your deep connection with your ex and the level of your intimacy. It will be a challenge particularly as the sensations of pleasure heighten. When the two of you finally make love, you’ll find the love making profoundly transformative and move each other in ways you could never imagine. You will have no need to worry as to whether she would accept your second invitation to “dinner”.
Make Up Date Night at Home
Entering into the Winter solstice in USA gives us the perfect opportunity for romantic make – up date ideas – just think: fireplaces, snugly duvets, hot chocolate, romantic movies and comfort foods like pizza and pasta. Here are some great ideas for getting cozy this winter. You can either organize them together as a couple (provided she has warmed up to you after the last fall out), or you can use it as an excuse to create a sense of “togetherness” or “
If you or your partner has kids then the number one priority is finding a good baby sitter – or leaving the kids with their doting grandparents for the evening. After that, the night is all yours.
If the evening is a surprise for her, you can make her feel extra-special by organizing the movie night around her favorite things. My suggestion would be to choose a romantic “chick-flick” type movie and order her favorite take-out. Also, don’t even think about forgetting her favorite ice-cream or dessert!
Romantic movie night means popcorn and junk food – so stock up on all of these. The more choice there is, the more she will see how much effort has been involved. Before she gets home, make sure everything is neat and tidy and that she does not have to do any work. You want her relaxed and pleasantly surprised.
Set up the sitting room/television area with comfortable cushions and warm blankets – you could even put a mattress on the floor. Before you start the movie, chat about the good old days, about how the two of you met and what you thought at that moment. Look back at the travels and enjoyable times you two had together and all the fun moments. If need be, bring out the photo albums and browse through pictures of the two of you together and recall what was happening when that picture was taken. This is all part of the warm-up for later.
Refill the wine/champagne/snifter glasses, dim the lighting and press play.
Finally, when the movie is over and there is this “awww geesh” kind of feeling in the air, gets up silently, switch on the CD and invite your lady to dance with you to your favorite song.
I can assure you after everything else that has preceded the evening, this will be the clincher!
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Yummy Yoga for Two
So you want to “reunite” with your ex do you? Well why not try something different with your ex. If you can persuade her to attend a yoga class with you, or better yet, hire a yoga DVD, shoot out and purchase 2 Yoga mats and send her an invitation directing time, place and attire, it is bound to pique her curiosity.
You could start off by telling her what Yoga means, which is that the word Yoga is derived from the Sanskrit word "Yuj" meaning to yoke, join or unite. This implies joining or integrating all aspects of the individual - body with mind and mind with soul - to achieve a happy, balanced and useful life, and spiritually, uniting the individual with the supreme. You do want to “reunite” with her but you need to seek some balance first. What better way that to use Yoga to achieve both these objectives?
Not only will Yoga help you relax while toning and strengthening your muscles, but done in the privacy of your home, you can start off slowly by following three simple exercises that are user-friendly, fun and good for you. Obviously the ambience is important so lighting some scented candles, dimming the lights, or burning some subtle incense can certainly add to the “mood” you are trying to create.
The idea is to do these exercises together at first, helping each other out. In other words, you stand either next to, in front of or alongside one another. This is what I mean by creating a sense of unity or “reuniting”. Not only will be she be reassured that you are there to help her if she falls but as you are both novices in the art of Yoga, doing these simple exercises together should create a sense of fun, excitement and make her realize you are prepared to try something new and possibly totally foreign to you. The three simple, easy to follow exercises are:
Place your hands and your knees on the floor, your palms should be flat with your fingers extended forward and should be ever so slightly forward of the line of your shoulders. Inhale deeply, filling your lungs with air. As you exhale lift your knees off the ground so that you are standing on your hands and toes. Inhale deeply once more and as you exhale try to touch the floor with your heels. Don’t force this, just stretch as far as is comfortable. While in this position concentrate on breathing deeply and remain there for fifteen seconds.
Sit on your yoga mat and spread you legs as wide as they will comfortably stretch, forming a V shape, with your hands on the floor in front of you. Make sure that you are sitting up straight as you inhale deeply. As you exhale move your hands forward as if walking and start to lean forward, your chest moving toward the floor as far as is comfortable. From this position take three deep breaths before slowly uncurling to your upright sitting position. Repeat this exercise three times for the best effect.
Sit up straight on your yoga mat and bring your feet together in front of you so that the soles are touching. Inhale deeply and as you exhale place your hands on your toes and very gently pull your heels closer toward you. Inhale once more and as you exhale lean forward while keeping your back straight as long as you are comfortable. Concentrate on deep inhalation and exhalation while you hold this pose for one minute before slowly returning to an upright seated position.
If the exercises not only work in relaxing both of you, then it could be a fun couple thing to do in attending further yoga classes. These 3 simple moves can be done in a pair as well as individually and you’d be surprised at how relaxed, content and good you both will feel once you have attempted them a few times. These yoga moves are a perfect excuse to make “amends” and “reunite” with your loved one.
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Take a Sensual Cooking Class for Two
There is no doubt that food is seduction and that all luscious sexual inferences and allusions litter the bed-sheets of gastronomy. Yes we all know that it’s purportedly via the stomach that we aim for his or her heart – and as we are winning her back, the more delectable region of her anatomy.
So we are talking provocative cuisine – or even better yet, cooking classes just for two. In case you hadn’t heard, cookbooks have become the new erotica. We all know sex sells, but combining sex and food. Ooh la la! This is where you come in.
You extend an invitation to your kitchen goddess keeping in mind the image of her naked, wearing an apron only, licking that spoon. The fact that the spoon is Freudian metaphor is just the tip of the iceberg, or should I say, the “icing on the cake”.
A little imagination, a trip to the costume hire store or even the store that sells aprons and chef hats, a downloaded menu that is simple, seductive and easy to follow, a well orchestrated trip to the grocer to ensure you have all the ingredients, the accompanying wine, a pre-laid table, seductive music and soft lighting and you are ready.
Upon her arrival at the door, you hand her the apron and chef’s hat and you ensure that the entire “gastronomic” experience is a subtle blend of seductive fun. Flirt with her the entire time, maintain eye contact, drop subtle innuendos particularly if using phallic type foods such as carrots, cucumbers, sausages, bananas…etc. A few “French” names, for example “poisson en croute avec” thrown in for effect can be far more seductive than the English equivalent of “stodgy fish pie” or ”
When passing her, stretching for utensils, putting aside the dirty dishes, make sure you are constantly in contact with her body, occasionally kiss her ear, her neck, nibble her ear lobe, gently caress her buttocks, so that you entire physical being is seducing her whilst the two of you are standing apart. If you persist with this lavish attention, you’ll find her inner oven ready for baking long before the starters have been served and she is more than willing to nibble on your “banana surprise”.
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Making Up Ideas
Romantic Weekend Away –
Yes, weekends away are expensive, but special occasions should be celebrated and what’s more, you are trying to win her back. What could be more special than that? It is important to plan ahead, save up (if necessary borrow from your friend if urgency doesn’t permit you the luxury of time). If
If you are not eating inside the room/hotel or where-ever you are staying, make sure you eat dessert in front of the fire place so take your own, either chocolate mousse or strawberries and cream, but definitely something she would enjoy and USE it, don’t just eat it! That’s what belly-buttons are for – collecting excess chocolate mousse that needs a serious ‘licking’.
At Home – Dinner for Two
This one involves a little more effort, but is great if you want to show off your culinary skills! If not, make sure you cook something simple, alternatively, organize the meal to be cooked elsewhere and delivered before time. A great dish is also the fondue – a feast for two. When you organize this romantic make-up dinner party for start with hand-written invite on your partner’s pillow in the morning, or if she has moved out, an enticing email or text in the afternoon.
Dress smartly for the occasion (clothing items can always be removed later on) and make sure you plan well ahead. Set the mood with her favorite music, turn the heat up in the kitchen. If you are intending to cook, invite her to join in but no bossing allowed! The sense of accomplishment after cooking a delicious meal together will help bring you and her closer together, particularly if things have been somewhat strained. By the end of the evening, if all goes according to plan, she’d willingly agree to a shared bubble bath or sensuous massage.
Lip O' Seduction
You’ve got her to agree to going on a make up date with you but you are both aware of the need to the trust between the two of you to be rebuilt. So it’s time to take it slow. Agree on the limitations between the two of you upfront so there is no misunderstanding because believe you me, when you have finished with your lips, she’ll be begging for it!
Okay so agreement at hand, decision to take it slow right! However taking it slow doesn’t necessarily mean just holding hands. You’d be surprised as to how erotic, exciting and anticipatory restricting your physical contact can actually be.
There are many types or sorts of kissing that dangle on a continuum that ranges from foreplay to after play like a g-string on a wash line. These kisses range from playful kisses like the chocolate kiss to the cold, peeled grapes kiss. Have I got your attention now?
The Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kisses, but now is your time to invent more! Pay attention to the areas of her body you have neglected before. Just because you are kissing her doesn’t mean you have to restrict yourself to her lips. Why don’t you pay lavish attention to her legs, working your way along her legs, always remembering your self-control. Start at her little toes, to the top of her leg, then back down to her ankles, knees and so on, occasionally blowing against the back of her legs, alternating between hard and lighter breaths. This technique is sure to leave her begging for more!
There is also the Chocolate Kiss. What women wouldn’t enjoy this one? It’s always best to use a smooth, creamy chocolate that melts easily in your mouth. The smoother the better, obviously! Once the chocolate starts to melt, kiss her and twirl your tongues around hers.
One could also use hard but small pieces of
Other creative contributors to “sweet kisses” are caramel, strawberries and cream, which involve the seductive licking of spoons, feeding one another strawberries, exchanging the strawberries with the whipping cream between each other’s mouth.
Champagne or fizzy drink can provide a different sensation so the more fizz, the better. When you are ready to kiss her, take a sip and keep some in your mouth, dribble some into your partners’ mouth gently so that you share more than spill into one another’s mouth.
Okay, so we’ve spoken about lips, but what’s inside the lips besides the tongue are the teeth. Now that’s an interesting thought. Starting slowly, simply graze parts of her body as you kiss her, using the edges of your teeth almost like fingernails, or as you would your tongue, lightly tickling her shoulders, arms and hands. Suck on each one of her fingers and, as you remove them from your mouth, softly apply pressure using your teeth.
If she enjoyed this, try lightly biting the back of her neck or other body parts in between passionate kissing. Don’t overdo it and remember, when you feel you are going to lose control – STOP! Your agreement was to take it slow, to build trust and I can assure you, by the time the next date night arrives, she will be ready to jump your bones!
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Customize Your Own Version of
The way to her heart is through her stomach while watching your hot buns bent over the gas cooker! Preparation is important here! Make sure your home is neat, tidy and most of all, comfortable. If you have kids, make sure you have organized a babysitter who will be on standby for “overtime”.
Set the mood by sending the invitation to her office, leave it on her bed, in her briefcase or even send a romantic electronic invite for a two-person romantic dinner.
Make sure you plan the menu well ahead of time, complete your shopping list and if you are planning to do the cooking, make sure you stick to a simple menu that leaves time and energy for the seduction.
Now’s the time for “dress up” or should we call it “dress down”. Choose a masculine apron and strip naked, leaving your front covered with just your butt cheeks showing. Obviously you would have ensured that you are freshly showered, wearing your best aftershave and have removed any unwanted hair she might have an aversion to (be it back or butt hair for that matter!). Make a slightly exaggerated but “cheeky” effort in transforming your lounge/dining room into a sensual, romantic setting. Bend over catching her eyeful as you lay out the scented candles; carefully chosen mood music; and table settings, adjust the suitable temperature heating (comfortable enough to disrobe in), check the working CD/IPOD.
Now it’s time for the “main course”. Act the part of the gentleman and tell her you are going to “dress for dinner”, and come out in your TUX (or as fancy as you have). If she objects, saying that she would rather you stay as you are – then obey the lady, after all, the intention is to get naked anyway.
Surprise her by playing a little scene out of the movie (9½ weeks) by blindfolding her; feeding her little portions from the plate and making her guess what food it is. If she gets it wrong, she has to pay a forfeit and what forfeit is entirely up to you – use your imagination and choose one that she would feel comfortable with. Reverse the roles and allow her to do the same to you. Feeding one another is a highly erotic aspect of foreplay that bodes extremely well in building up anticipation.
Last but not least, make sure you have scattered red rose petals all over the area you plan to use to make love, whether it is the bedroom, fireplace or next to the hot tub!
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It Take Two to Tango
Sign up for “Sensuous Samba or Tantalizing Tango”
Do you want to whirl her back into your life? If this is the case, then what better way than to sign up for ballroom dancing lessons but to specifically concentrate on three of the most erotic, sexy and romantic dances, namely the Tango, Samba and the Rumba. If this is moving too fast given your transgression that made you split in the first place, you can also choose to participate in the more innocuous generic ballroom type dancing lessons. Most importantly though, the success factor here is to organize private classes so that it is just the two of you together and not only will this be an emotional journey in through which the two of you will re-bond but it will be filled with fun, romance, eroticism, and furthermore, give both of you an “edge” in confidence.
“It takes 2 to Tango!” If you start out with the Tango (originating in Buenos Aires), which incorporates both the elements of an emotional and dramatic dance that allows for great expression and drama and can be extremely cathartic especially if she is still angry with you. It allows for a lot of improvisation so of course, the two of you could have immense fun as you learn the steps. If nothing else, you can entice her back into your life with your humor, your willingness to look and act like a fool and the fact that you both will have a lot of laughs.
Now with the Samba, there is an ambience of playfulness, reminiscent of the Rio Carnival and so the two of you will have a fantastic time learning this dance together. Not only that but if you get the rhythm of your hips right, there is no way she is going to be able to resist you. The intensity of contact, your closeness and perspiration are all part of an enormous aphrodisiac for her. By the time you two have finished learning this dance routine, she should be eating out of your hands. But wait, the best is yet to come!
Saving the best for last, the Rumba is a poetic story of love and eroticism between two lovers and is said to be a “
The best part of all of this is that if the two of you enjoy taking these private lessons then consider taking more dance lessons. The beauty is that ballroom dancing, (in fact any dancing) comes with a whole host of benefits, from improving your self-confidence, increasing your social skills, posture and grace, never mind the obvious health benefits. It allows you be close to her and is exciting and exhilarating. You can set the pace by dancing slow, fast, close, cheek-to-cheek but however you do it, remember dancing is fun, fun, fun and you get to stay fit and keep in shape too! What a bonus!
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Road Trips and Picnics
There is something to be said about leaving the city behind, getting away for a day, enjoying whatever beautiful views nature offers you, stuffing yourself silly and then lay back with a glass of wine or whatever liquid takes your fancy. When the sun is shining there's only one thing to do...and that is, go on a picnic. Now picnics are not only good for the happily involved but they are essential when trying to win her back! Obviously the weather plays an important part but remember, you can picnic both indoors and outdoors. All it takes is a little creative imagination.
The Romantic Picnic
Most importantly you must find a place that’s sheltered from the wind yet has a lovely view. Set the scene with candles or lanterns, and your loved one (yes her) will be eating out of the palm of your hand! For dinner include:
· Fresh, organic vegetables such as baby carrots, cucumber fingers, baby sweet corn, broccoli, cherry tomatoes and serve with dips such as guacamole, hummus or chopped tomato in cottage cheese, suggests planning and preparation and you can grill the vegetables beforehand for something a little different.
· Cold meats with cheeses such as Camembert and Brie also work well as snacks. The cheese can also be eaten with fruit or crackers.
· It’s always a good idea to stick to finger foods for romantic picnics; this way you can feed each other.
· For something more substantial, make a variety of wraps with cottage cheese and pineapple filling; and pita bread with stuffed with tuna salad, feta and avocado, or feta and carrot.
· A bottle of wine or bubbly makes it a special occasion, but remember to first check whether alcohol is allowed at your picnic spot of choice — and pack two of your prettiest glasses for the occasion.
· Round off your rendezvous with some decadent dark chocolate-tipped strawberries.
Although it seems as though this is a daunting task, and it really doesn’t have to be. A little planning beforehand can make you look like a pro and what better way to impress her than if you can honestly tell her you prepared it yourself. Certain foods are easy and quick to prepare such as cheese and crackers, muffins, grapes, strawberries (these always score big points for the romantic), chips and dips etc., always work well. Throw in a bottle of wine or some champagne or if going for something non-alcoholic - a chilled fresh fruit juice. When organizing your picnic basket the utensils you bring with are very important. Make sure you also pack enough blankets and pillows for extra comfort.
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How to Get Her Back -- For Good
Let’s say you are one of those men who have been in a “plodding” relationship for a couple of years now, in fact, so mundane the “plod”, you can’t even remember how many years. Even worse, you forget your anniversaries, pleading a frenetic work schedule and make flippant promises to make good but they never materialize. Seriously, who needs to put that much effort in right? Wasn’t it Douglas Adams who wrote, “I am so amazingly cool you could keep a side of meat in me for a month and I am so hip I have difficulty seeing over my pelvis?” That’s how confident you felt about yourself and your relationship right? Those back-slapping buddies of yours who convince you that forgetting the 10th anniversary is acceptable. Does this all sound familiar?
Then along comes the realization that she’s been making a lot of noise on being taken for granted, under-appreciated, the relationship being one-sided, ‘yadda, yadda, yadda’ and you just kept right on ignoring her. Why not, you’ve heard it all before!
So now even after much deliberation and your beleaguered aptitude of hindsight, you still can’t figure out why she left you. So how are the relationships of your beer-swilling, jerky chewing, ass-scratching friends? Hmmn, thought so. Either they are divorced, separated; sadly single cradling some alcoholic snifter instead of holding the sweet soft skin of her satiny cheeks between their clammy little paws. So here’s the cruncher – “How is their advice and your previous approach to relationships working for you???!”
It’s not is it? Let me guess, once you realized she’d split, you phoned all your buddies and off you went on a “mock-stag” night to celebrate your “new found freedom” and it worked for about two hours until you got home and found the empty unmade bed, the overflowing trash and crumpled shirt and trousers still in need of ironing. That’s when the epiphany hit you like a wet cold fishy slap on the forehead– it was you who’d been who’d been dumped at the alter!
You ‘brave’ it out for a few more days and by the end of the week, although you would rather stick a pin in your eye than admit it, you are LOST without her. There is this huge chasm in your life that she used to fill and it was only after she’d gone, that you realized how important she was to you. Not only that but suddenly you start to see her as every other horny guy out there sees who and you realize you had one “Good Looking Cooking!” You need to win her back and fast! Now this is where you need to take a long, hard look at the relationship you used to have with her, or more honestly, a long hard look at what it is you did that drove her away. This is where the Holy Grail of Relationship Fix-it’s in getting HER back, begins!
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Making Up After Breaking Up
Out on the Town – Restaurants
If the two of you enjoyed eating out when it was working and she has given you the benefit of the doubt with a second chance, then spice up your dates by visiting different restaurants around town. It is always exciting to try different cultural foods and different venues. However, the two of you have always enjoyed a specific restaurant, use it to your advantage when you go on the romantic make up date. If you know that your she enjoys drinking a specific red wine at the restaurant, phone ahead and ask that the wine be ready at the table when the two of you arrive. Remember – Romance, particularly making up romance is the reason behind this action - like your mother told you, “it’s the thought that counts,” and little things like this can make her feel extra-special and that you have changed.
Out on the Town – Fast Food
Okay so not everyone can afford to eat out and although it might not be healthy, fast food really tastes good! And eating it once in a while won’t kill you. You don’t need to spend a fortune to impress her but you do need to show that you have spent time and thought and that you are genuine in your quest to apologize, prove to her that you have changed and that you appreciate her. Order the things you love the most and then find your old/new romantic spot, spread a blanket, sit on a wall or just sit in the car and watch the sun set whilst you feast. Once the tummies are full, it is easier to engage in conversation particularly if an apology is due. Surprise her with a pre-planned “take out” or “store bought” dessert – her favorite. She will not be expecting this and will be touched at your consideration.
Fast food is also a good way to organize a picnic in a hurry. For example: If your partner has had a really long day at work, and doesn’t feel like cooking dinner, pack a picnic blanket in the car and take them to their favorite fast food joint. You can then take the blanket down to the beach or a local park (where it’s safe) and enjoy a relaxing picnic together. If safety is a concern, set up the picnic in your garden at home. If the weather is not suitable, picnic in your lounge in front of the fireplace and roast some marshmallows together.
These ideas are simple, affordable and yet show that you are sincere, contrite and have a “romantic” buried deep inside you somewhere just waiting to “burst” out.
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Your Manner of Approach
If you're interested in learning how to win HER back, here’s a bit of information that might help. It may not be easy and it might not even work but if you don’t at least try, you will never know. You also need to understand that some relationships are just not meant to work and if that is the case with yours, then don’t even waste your time and effort. Rather look else where for comfort and a new beginning. However, the main objective here is to “win her back” and so this is how we do it.
Firstly, you need to be in control of your emotions. This is not an easy task at present, emotions are running high for both of you, ranging from anger to grief and shock so it is difficult to try and focus. It requires both conscious effort and control and you need to keep your “eye on the ball” as it could be tough, time consuming and sometimes, demoralizing. But if you stay focused, then you have the opportunity to prove to yourself and everybody around you, especially your ex that you're capable to deal with difficult situations.
When staying in control, you have to keep a mind to not retaliate. Most guys retaliate after a breakup and this definitely will make things worse than they already are. “Getting her back” or “making her want you more by making out with her friend” will NOT work. It will only validate her mistrust of you and push her away even further. You need to give your ex time along, avoid contacting her, especially immediately after
The last thing you need to do is “hibernate” as it is often tempting to stay at home along following a rough breakup and but this is the worse thing you could do. Not only will you be seen as weak, but it will exacerbate your situation even further driving home your sense of loneliness. It is important that you stay in touch with your friends and continue to enjoy life. You need to keep yourself busy.
If you want to know how to approach your ex, talk to her friends (if they agree to talk to you), if not, be persistent and let them see you are genuinely regretful. The more information you can gather on your ex’s state of mind and her feelings towards you, the better. Research, organization and preparation hand in hand together with a romantic ambiance, environment, intention or occasion should work hands down any time. Once you have an idea of where her mind is at, you can plan your approach accordingly and design a “come back” strategy that will not only impress her, but “blow her socks off”.
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.Discover all of Michael Webb books at the website.
The Right Questions
Ask yourself the right questions to understand your ex and yourself, for that matter
When your ex breaks up with you, one of the first, and natural things you do, is to start pitying yourself. It's difficult not to because emotions are flying high and you are thinking with your heart, not your head. You should also remember that if you are feeling like this, you can rest assured she will be feeling the same multiplied by 100. Come on, not only are women hormonal but they have a range of emotions that extends past the milky-way. We all know that, advertisers capitalize on it and men have used this as an excuse since time began.
It is important that you stop feeling sorry for yourself and understand that you life hasn’t come to a standstill. Feeling sorry for yourself is not going to help and furthermore, if you are depressed, how are you going to win your ex back? A confident, positive state of mind is far more enticing and inviting that a dour, depressed individual. Many guys lose hope and quit if their exes initiate
Make a list of all the things you used to do that took her for granted. Many guys expect their girlfriends to do things for them that they can easily do themselves. Women often resent being in the role of a maid, secretary, or mother, and it becomes more of a challenge for them to then step into the role of lover and being seen as a lover both by themselves and by you.
Have you ever thought of thank your ex after lovemaking – right then and there as the two of you are lying spent? Sounds crazy I know but it works. She has just given herself to you and the least you could do is show her some appreciation.
When you were dating, were you
When your ex was full of self-doubt did you respond with sensitivity and support? If she was self-critical about her weight, instead of agreeing with her or dismissing what she said, did you say, “I can see that you’re upset about the weight you’ve gained but you need to know that you always turn me on and I love touching you.”
Were you in tune to her moods? Her needs? If she’d had a horrible day or if you have been short with each other all day, did you recognize her state of mind and rather than criticize her, did you offer to help her satisfy her needs, or alleviate her stress. Did you cherish her?
Consideration of all these aspects is important in understanding what it will take to win your ex back and keep her. You should always listen to what she says, both verbally and non-verbally as those cues are the most indicative as to what it is she wants from you.
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.Discover all of Michael Webb books at the website.