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Time to Walk the Talk

Tips on Getting Your Ex-Girlfriend or Wife Back

Talk is cheap and you need money to pay the rent - or a better way of stating it is you need to fill the hole in your heart that’s been left there after SHE walked out. It’s time to act rather than speak. What is it they say, “Actions speak louder than words”. She’s not taking your calls so these are the type of things you need to do:

· If she drives her own car, leaving a red rose on her windscreen with a hand note from you explaining that you know words are cheap and that you ask her to give you a chance to show her why the two of you are meant to be together. You need to leave a little hint of a proposed romantic rendezvous that gives enough information to show your sincerity but not too much so as to create an allure.

· If she has moved out and is living with a friend/sister or parents, make sure that you do the same but leave it on her/their doorstep at a time you know she will definitely find it.

· Ensure you have set the romantic rendezvous for the following evening (which you have planned well in advance) so that she does not have time to get 100 negative input ideas from over-protective friends and family.

· Deck yourself out in the most attractive NEW clothes you can find, have a haircut, shave and use an aftershave she cannot resist.

· Choose a restaurant that you two have never been to, that is extremely romantic, make sure you book the secluded corner table, even ask for a separate dining room/area if possible and arrive EARLY.

· When she gets to the table (which she will if you have done what we tell you), then make sure you stand up as she approaches and treat her like a queen, pulling out her chair, and after you sit down, look at her, drink her in and hold her eyes with yours as you tell her how exceptionally beautiful she looks. Before she can scoff at her compliment (which she might view as a superficial compliment), rise from you chair, get down to eye level next her while she is seated in her chair and put your finger gently on her lips and ask her to just listen to what you have to say before she responds.

· Staying where you are, you tell her how much she means to you, what a complete idiot you have been, how having her gone has left a hole greater than all the black holes in space, in your life. Tell her you are prepared to do anything and keep on doing anything for as long as it takes, even your entire lifetime, to prove this to her.

· When you leave alone that night (a must in this case), ask her permission to kiss her and then kiss her with hedonistic ferocity that leaves her hungry for more, then gently pull back.

· Make sure she has a ride home, whether with you, a cabby or walk her to her car, like a gentleman.

· When you get home, text her telling her how much you enjoyed the evening, tell her how beautiful she looked and that you can’t wait to see her again.

· Follow up and confirm your next date and don’t leave it too long. There is a reason they call it the “art” of seduction. It involves creativity, patience and time.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back. Check out all of Micheal Webb Books at the website

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General Ideas for Re-working Your Break Up

When you are faced with problems in your relationship, it would be easy to walk away and let it fail, while it is harder to stay and work it through. When you are faced with these issues, to keep it in perspective, think of the way you felt when you first met and the reason you fell in love. Remember the good and the bad times you shared, and what makes it worth it.

You know that it takes two to tango, and this applies to your relationship as well. An effort from only one party is not going to prove to be successful.

Many relationships fail for a number of reasons here are a few of the common ones:

· High expectations generally happen when entering a relationship viewing everything through rose-colored glasses/spectacles. When these expectations are not met disappointment and frustration soon follow.

· Financial issues are not taboo between couples. A household budget should be discussed early so you know what is expected of you. It is important to speak up about money issues when they first arise, and not scream about it when you both are angry.

· Manage your stress. Recognize what stresses you both out and do whatever you can to not fall prey. Too much stress can hamper one’s ability to think and respond properly.

· Compromise and do things as a couple. Go to a football match with him and take her shopping, or go on holiday together. Don’t be afraid to speak up and tell your significant other what you want and need. No offense to you guys, but you don’t take hints well, so learn to LISTEN, not just hear! Part of listening also involves not get defensive when she speaks to you, be genuine, compassionate, understanding and sincere.

· Spice up your relationship and go out and have a night on the town together. Bring home flowers and chocolates for no particular reason. Apologize if you have done something to upset her, and surprise her with something that she’s been wanting but do it for “no reason whatsoever” not because it’s her birthday or Valentine’s day.

Both of you have to be willing to make this relationship work. Don’t scream, argue and curse, rather sit down, call a meeting and be reasonable and logical about it. Try not to get too emotional, speak calmly when you say what you have to say.

There are an abundance of tips that can save your relationship, but like with all advice, it may not work in all situations. An understanding of your partner and what your relationship requires can provide you with what you need.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back. Explore more of Michael Webb Books, at the website.

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How to Get Her Back -- For Good

Let’s say you are one of those men who have been in a “plodding” relationship for a couple of years now, in fact, so mundane the “plod”, you can’t even remember how many years. Even worse, you forget your anniversaries, pleading a frenetic work schedule and make flippant promises to make good but they never materialize. Seriously, who needs to put that much effort in right? Wasn’t it Douglas Adams who wrote, “I am so amazingly cool you could keep a side of meat in me for a month and I am so hip I have difficulty seeing over my pelvis?” That’s how confident you felt about yourself and your relationship right? Those back-slapping buddies of yours who convince you that forgetting the 10^th anniversary is acceptable. Does this all sound familiar?

Then along comes the realization that she’s been making a lot of noise on being taken for granted, under-appreciated, the relationship being one-sided, ‘yadda, yadda, yadda’ and you just kept right on ignoring her. Why not, you’ve heard it all before!

So now even after much deliberation and your beleaguered aptitude of hindsight, you still can’t figure out why she left you. So how are the relationships of your beer-swilling, jerky chewing, ass-scratching friends? Hmmn, thought so. Either they are divorced, separated; sadly single cradling some alcoholic snifter instead of holding the sweet soft skin of her satiny cheeks between their clammy little paws. So here’s the cruncher – “How is their advice and your previous approach to relationships working for you???!”

It’s not is it? Let me guess, once you realized she’d split, you phoned all your buddies and off you went on a “mock-stag” night to celebrate your “new found freedom” and it worked for about two hours until you got home and found the empty unmade bed, the overflowing trash and crumpled shirt and trousers still in need of ironing. That’s when the epiphany hit you like a wet cold fishy slap on the forehead– it was you who’d been who’d been dumped at the alter!

You ‘brave’ it out for a few more days and by the end of the week, although you would rather stick a pin in your eye than admit it, you are LOST without her. There is this huge chasm in your life that she used to fill and it was only after she’d gone, that you realized how important she was to you. Not only that but suddenly you start to see her as every other horny guy out there sees who and you realize you had one “Good Looking Cooking!” You need to win her back and fast! Now this is where you need to take a long, hard look at the relationship you used to have with her, or more honestly, a long hard look at what it is you did that drove her away. This is where the Holy Grail of Relationship Fix-it’s in getting HER back, begins!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.

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Your Manner of Approach

If you're interested in learning how to win HER back, here’s a bit of information that might help. It may not be easy and it might not even work but if you don’t at least try, you will never know. You also need to understand that some relationships are just not meant to work and if that is the case with yours, then don’t even waste your time and effort. Rather look else where for comfort and a new beginning. However, the main objective here is to “win her back” and so this is how we do it.

Firstly, you need to be in control of your emotions. This is not an easy task at present, emotions are running high for both of you, ranging from anger to grief and shock so it is difficult to try and focus. It requires both conscious effort and control and you need to keep your “eye on the ball” as it could be tough, time consuming and sometimes, demoralizing. But if you stay focused, then you have the opportunity to prove to yourself and everybody around you, especially your ex that you're capable to deal with difficult situations.

When staying in control, you have to keep a mind to not retaliate. Most guys retaliate after a breakup and this definitely will make things worse than they already are. “Getting her back” or “making her want you more by making out with her friend” will NOT work. It will only validate her mistrust of you and push her away even further. You need to give your ex time along, avoid contacting her, especially immediately after the break up. This is probably one of the most difficult things to do, but it is necessary and it also gives her a chance to miss you.

The last thing you need to do is “hibernate” as it is often tempting to stay at home along following a rough breakup and but this is the worse thing you could do. Not only will you be seen as weak, but it will exacerbate your situation even further driving home your sense of loneliness. It is important that you stay in touch with your friends and continue to enjoy life. You need to keep yourself busy.

If you want to know how to approach your ex, talk to her friends (if they agree to talk to you), if not, be persistent and let them see you are genuinely regretful. The more information you can gather on your ex’s state of mind and her feelings towards you, the better. Research, organization and preparation hand in hand together with a romantic ambiance, environment, intention or occasion should work hands down any time. Once you have an idea of where her mind is at, you can plan your approach accordingly and design a “come back” strategy that will not only impress her, but “blow her socks off”.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.Discover all of Michael Webb books at the website.

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Making Out After "Break-Up Make Up"

Most couples have a heated argument now and again and while you might sulk and or cry about it in the beginning, you have to admit there’s nothing better than makeup sex. The best way to let out your frustration about what they have done is to rip their clothes off and have a rough night of passion. It’s the best way to release all that anger.

It’s usually the person who starts the argument that initiates the makeup sex but it isn’t always easy getting in the good books. They won’t be able to resist your charms for long though and when they give in, get ready for fireworks

It’s important to her how sorry you are for your part in the argument. The last thing you want to do is get her angry again by insisting she was in the wrong. Hug and kiss her gently, all the while telling her why you don’t deserve her. Don’t let her anger deter you and although she might push you away at first don’t give up as your persistence will pay off. Once they start to give in it’s time to take them to the bedroom. This is the success factor to winning her back!

Making up sex is great as you get to let the animal inside of you out. You can be wild and ensure she feels your beast within. For her, your groveling is sexy. She might not admit it but watching you grovel is a major turn on for her. It shows that you care in some weird way.

She thinks she is in control and you continue letting her think that succumbing to her every need because you are trying so hard to please her. But there is a reward for you as this is also the perfect time to try new things. The sex will be so great she will be left asking herself what the two of you were fighting about.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back. See the complete collection of Micheal Webb Books at the website.

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Win Her Back With a Letter

“I wrote a letter to my love and on the way I dropped it”

Here is a question that guys have all the time. Is writing letters to get your ex back really a good idea? It is indeed, provided you don’t “drop the ball” in your letter writing! Take heed gentlemen! There are many people that write letters, text messages, e-mails and just about every other form of text-based correspondence that you can think of on a daily basis. Many of these people will resort to that form of communication when trying to get an ex-lover to fall in love with them again but does it work?

There is something to be said about writing a letter, particularly one written in your own hand. In this day and age, many people break up over the phone, over an instant messaging program, through mail or even by text-message and as a result, there is no closure so people tend to hold grudges. They say that the most honest way to break up with someone is in person, so surely this should work the opposite way, that is, if you want to get your ex back?

Absolutely, however it is all in what you say, how you say it and when you send it and how you offer it to her. Some of the simple guidelines you can follow range from using neutral, soft colored stationery, a flair pen that compliments your own hand writing, and the time and place you choose to sit down and write it. Remember that this is probably going to be a keepsake of hers, so make sure that you write from your heart, addressing her in a manner befitting, i.e. “to my darling Jacqueline”, call her “the love of your life” and start the letter off by telling her why you are writing to her. Remind her of the reasons you fell in love with her, how much she changed your life for the better and how you cannot imagine living without her. Recall some of the special memories you shared, and all the qualities of hers that you adore.

You need to make a concerted effort in making an impression and you need to sound sincere and genuine at the same time. If you are not sure of how or what to write, do some research on the Internet or visit a library. There are many ways to find inspiration. If she has a favorite author or poet, find a quote of his/hers that suits the message you are trying to convey, or better yet, visit The Romantic and see what ideas Michael Webb has for writing a romantic letter.

When closing up on completion of your letter make sure it is neatly folded and put it into a matching envelope with her address on the outside, if you are intending to mail it and even if you do hand deliver it to her doorstop and slip it under the door. Then you need to be patient and wait. If you have heeded my advice above, I can assure you, you will get the response you desire so make sure you are ready for the reunion.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.Discover all of Michael Webb books at the website.

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The Right Questions

Ask yourself the right questions to understand your ex and yourself, for that matter

When your ex breaks up with you, one of the first, and natural things you do, is to start pitying yourself. It's difficult not to because emotions are flying high and you are thinking with your heart, not your head. You should also remember that if you are feeling like this, you can rest assured she will be feeling the same multiplied by 100. Come on, not only are women hormonal but they have a range of emotions that extends past the milky-way. We all know that, advertisers capitalize on it and men have used this as an excuse since time began.

It is important that you stop feeling sorry for yourself and understand that you life hasn’t come to a standstill. Feeling sorry for yourself is not going to help and furthermore, if you are depressed, how are you going to win your ex back? A confident, positive state of mind is far more enticing and inviting that a dour, depressed individual. Many guys lose hope and quit if their exes initiate the break up but if you are serious about getting her back, you must not lose hope and quit. You need to be able to do what it takes and if you cannot stay the course, then it is quite safe to say you are not going to win her back.

Make a list of all the things you used to do that took her for granted. Many guys expect their girlfriends to do things for them that they can easily do themselves. Women often resent being in the role of a maid, secretary, or mother, and it becomes more of a challenge for them to then step into the role of lover and being seen as a lover both by themselves and by you.

Have you ever thought of thank your ex after lovemaking – right then and there as the two of you are lying spent? Sounds crazy I know but it works. She has just given herself to you and the least you could do is show her some appreciation.

When you were dating, were you tactile? Did you touch her in a number of different ways, at different times and in different locations, like your hand on the small of her back as you were walking, a very light tickle on the palm of her hand during a dinner date, did you softly outline her lips with your fingers, give gentle hair tugs, place a warm hand on the back of her neck, slowly arouse her by touching through her clothes, gently nibble her lips, and her ears? Did you do all of this and more?

When your ex was full of self-doubt did you respond with sensitivity and support? If she was self-critical about her weight, instead of agreeing with her or dismissing what she said, did you say, “I can see that you’re upset about the weight you’ve gained but you need to know that you always turn me on and I love touching you.”

Were you in tune to her moods? Her needs? If she’d had a horrible day or if you have been short with each other all day, did you recognize her state of mind and rather than criticize her, did you offer to help her satisfy her needs, or alleviate her stress. Did you cherish her?

Consideration of all these aspects is important in understanding what it will take to win your ex back and keep her. You should always listen to what she says, both verbally and non-verbally as those cues are the most indicative as to what it is she wants from you.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.Discover all of Michael Webb books at the website.

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Girls Just Wanna Have Fun

Invite her on a journey to rediscover her inner child. Make plans for an upcoming Saturday or make sure you have booked a day off work for her with her boss as guaranteed this will be her first line of defense in turning you down. Remind her of those carefree days of running around in the park with her friends, swinging on swing sets, making snow cones and catching fireflies at dusk? Remind her of the time when her biggest worry was which flavor of ice cream to choose? Whilst it might seem immature, just work with me. Call her up and invite her on a “play date”. If she starts to question you, you can offer a slight hint but the intention is create an air of mystery and fun. Then you need to start working on the type of activities you will take part in. You could consider some of the following activities:

· Watch a kiddies movie, (lighthearted, animation, fantasy land)

· Draw pictures and create Collages – create your own visionary boards for romance and this can give you clues as to what she needs from you.

· Write stories and then finish each other’s stories… Once upon a time… and you’d be surprised at what comes out plus it can give you a clue as to her state of mind.

· Make up a game or participate in your favorite game from childhood

· Go to the park, go camping, visit the zoo, hang out with your own, hers, your siblings, friends, kids. Offer to baby sit the kids for a day because often just being around kids can make finding your own inner child a lot easier. Children have a fresh look on things, and sometimes when we get in bad moods it is because we are so jaded with the world around us. Experiencing life through the eyes of a child can really do wonders for naturally rediscovering a good mood.

· If possible, take a trip to Disneyland or some theme park.

· Blindfold one another, spin one another around and then see how you fall and feel all dizzy. Try feeding each other blindfolded. This can soon lead to something more romantic and intimate.

· Buy some play dough and make shapes.

· Play 20 questions, pull out some old board games, Scrabble, Monopoly, an old deck of cards.

· Build a tent in the living room out of sheets, pillows and whatever else you can lay your hands on.

· Ride your bikes, or borrow some other kids bikes and if this is too immature for you, go for more mature bikes and hire a Harley Davidson for an hour or two (assuming you have your license and all protective gear) and go riding off in the sunset with the wind in your hair.

The intention with a “play date” with your ex is to just let all the angst go and live and let live. Enjoy the moment and your youth, no matter what age you are. I know of couples who still dine out on the ‘mischievous practical jokes’ they got up to when they experienced with the “play date” idea. After all, what have you got to lose? Your dignity? Since when do children worry about dignity?

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back. See all of Michael Webb Books at the website.

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Reinvent Yourself

You’ve broken up with your ex and are either single or with someone new but you know you jumped back into the dating pool too soon. You realize this was a rebound knee-jerk reaction and what’s worse, you can’t get your ex out of your mind. You want her back and you want her back for good! Stick around because not only will I tell you how you can get her back, but how you can improve on your own life and self-image at the same time.

We all know men and women are wired differently – “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus right?”. But what if you could rewire yourself, both physically as well as emotionally! You can and whilst you may not wake up tomorrow a totally new person both physically and emotionally (believe me it doesn’t even happen overnight on those reality television shows), the first step in reinventing yourself to win her back is to START living the life you want to live and being the person you and SHE want you to be.

It can’t be that difficult or too far a reach or disconnect or else she wouldn’t have dated you in the first place right? We are all primed from early childhood, allocated labels, “athletic”, “academic”, “artistic” etc but often these labels are self-fulfilling prophecies that create our identity as opposed to shaping our identity.

Despite the fact that your breakup with your ex might have been the catalyst for your desire to change, self-actualization, or becoming who you need to be is part of life’s evolution. With evolution, your needs change, you acquire wisdom and experience and now you have reached a stage where you need to try something different. You may want to explore a new career, move to a different location, explore other activities and behaviors. In fact, this could also be the reason your relationship with your ex back-fired. Neither of you were getting what you needed. Perhaps she felt unappreciated or bored, and perhaps you found excuses to be away from home. However, the breakup between the two of you is treating the symptom, not the cause.

Take the next couple of days to make a list of all the positive and negative factors in your relationship but at the same time, look after yourself by eating healthily, exercising and getting enough sleep. This time apart allows you to reassess your life, and your possible life together with your ex, objectively. By the time you meet up with your ex she will already begin to see the ‘new emerging you’; and might possibly be inspired to join you. Whatever the situation, it is important to remember that you’re not stuck with who you were in the past. We often feel like who or what we aspire to be has to "make sense." But we're always growing, and taking a leap into a new life is exciting and even better with your ex by your side. It starts off as small steps and it was Confucius who said: “A journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step,” and so to reinvent yourself and your relationship, it’s often the little things that are the first step.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.and come to the website to discover all of Michael Webb Books.