Time for Tantra - Tips from Michael Webb books

Time for Tantra

Whilst ‘make up sex’ can be exciting, exhilarating, passionate and QUICK, it’s hardly going to be the glue that keeps her by your side or keep you two together. Hard, fast, thrusting is good, but not feasible in the long-term for obvious reasons! This is where Tantric sex comes in. In Tantric sex there is no goal of getting anywhere, of striving for the big “0”. Your approach with your partner is all about awareness and feeling, experiencing the “now”, with your ego dissolving and your heart opening. It’s a form of meditation that lets history dissolve, resentment fade away and anger turn into joy. It’s just what you need to get her back!

However, Tantric takes practice and it takes 2! So you have to convince her to take this journey with you and once you have both gone down this path, there will be no turning back. It’s not some huge mystery as most people seem to think and neither do you have to wait until you know it all. Every little step you take in this direction brings its own rewards and on this journey, you get to know yourself intimately first and then that of your partner, by exploring first the physical, the emotional and finally the spiritual.

If you explain this procedure to your ex, she is going to be spell bound and most definitely curious. Inviting you ex to your home to try out Tantra, requires her trust in you so don’t blow it! The first thing you need to do is design an “intimacy space”. Start off slow with a light intimate dinner and then proceed to this “space” which should be comfortable, relaxed and clear of clutter. It needs to be decorated with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics and the additional ambiance created by the scent should be of natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Choose a soundtrack of music that you both like to be played as soft background music.

The next step is intimate and involves breathing each other’s breath. Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. Whatever you do, do not lose control – this is critical!

Take it Slow!!! Foreplay is essential in Tantra. A slow build will not only help you maintain your erection but it will intensify her arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.

Whilst all this erotic foreplay is building, maintaining eye contact is essential. You are going to make love with your eyes open as the ultimate display of your deep connection with your ex and the level of your intimacy. It will be a challenge particularly as the sensations of pleasure heighten. When the two of you finally make love, you’ll find the love making profoundly transformative and move each other in ways you could never imagine. You will have no need to worry as to whether she would accept your second invitation to “dinner”.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice, in his book, Getting Her Back. Discover all Michael Webb Books at the website.

Yummy Yoga for Two - Tips from Michael Webb Books

Yummy Yoga for Two

So you want to “reunite” with your ex do you? Well why not try something different with your ex. If you can persuade her to attend a yoga class with you, or better yet, hire a yoga DVD, shoot out and purchase 2 Yoga mats and send her an invitation directing time, place and attire, it is bound to pique her curiosity.

You could start off by telling her what Yoga means, which is that the word Yoga is derived from the Sanskrit word "Yuj" meaning to yoke, join or unite. This implies joining or integrating all aspects of the individual - body with mind and mind with soul - to achieve a happy, balanced and useful life, and spiritually, uniting the individual with the supreme. You do want to “reunite” with her but you need to seek some balance first. What better way that to use Yoga to achieve both these objectives?

Not only will Yoga help you relax while toning and strengthening your muscles, but done in the privacy of your home, you can start off slowly by following three simple exercises that are user-friendly, fun and good for you. Obviously the ambience is important so lighting some scented candles, dimming the lights, or burning some subtle incense can certainly add to the “mood” you are trying to create.

The idea is to do these exercises together at first, helping each other out. In other words, you stand either next to, in front of or alongside one another. This is what I mean by creating a sense of unity or “reuniting”. Not only will be she be reassured that you are there to help her if she falls but as you are both novices in the art of Yoga, doing these simple exercises together should create a sense of fun, excitement and make her realize you are prepared to try something new and possibly totally foreign to you. The three simple, easy to follow exercises are:

The Downward facing dog

Place your hands and your knees on the floor, your palms should be flat with your fingers extended forward and should be ever so slightly forward of the line of your shoulders. Inhale deeply, filling your lungs with air. As you exhale lift your knees off the ground so that you are standing on your hands and toes. Inhale deeply once more and as you exhale try to touch the floor with your heels. Don’t force this, just stretch as far as is comfortable. While in this position concentrate on breathing deeply and remain there for fifteen seconds.

The Inner thigh stretch

Sit on your yoga mat and spread you legs as wide as they will comfortably stretch, forming a V shape, with your hands on the floor in front of you. Make sure that you are sitting up straight as you inhale deeply. As you exhale move your hands forward as if walking and start to lean forward, your chest moving toward the floor as far as is comfortable. From this position take three deep breaths before slowly uncurling to your upright sitting position. Repeat this exercise three times for the best effect.

The Butterfly pose

Sit up straight on your yoga mat and bring your feet together in front of you so that the soles are touching. Inhale deeply and as you exhale place your hands on your toes and very gently pull your heels closer toward you. Inhale once more and as you exhale lean forward while keeping your back straight as long as you are comfortable. Concentrate on deep inhalation and exhalation while you hold this pose for one minute before slowly returning to an upright seated position.

If the exercises not only work in relaxing both of you, then it could be a fun couple thing to do in attending further yoga classes. These 3 simple moves can be done in a pair as well as individually and you’d be surprised at how relaxed, content and good you both will feel once you have attempted them a few times. These yoga moves are a perfect excuse to make “amends” and “reunite” with your loved one.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice in his book, Getting Her Back. Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.

Take a Sensual Cooking Class for Two - Tips from Michael Webb books

Take a Sensual Cooking Class for Two

There is no doubt that food is seduction and that all luscious sexual inferences and allusions litter the bed-sheets of gastronomy. Yes we all know that it’s purportedly via the stomach that we aim for his or her heart – and as we are winning her back, the more delectable region of her anatomy.

So we are talking provocative cuisine – or even better yet, cooking classes just for two. In case you hadn’t heard, cookbooks have become the new erotica. We all know sex sells, but combining sex and food. Ooh la la! This is where you come in.

You extend an invitation to your kitchen goddess keeping in mind the image of her naked, wearing an apron only, licking that spoon. The fact that the spoon is Freudian metaphor is just the tip of the iceberg, or should I say, the “icing on the cake”.

A little imagination, a trip to the costume hire store or even the store that sells aprons and chef hats, a downloaded menu that is simple, seductive and easy to follow, a well orchestrated trip to the grocer to ensure you have all the ingredients, the accompanying wine, a pre-laid table, seductive music and soft lighting and you are ready.

Upon her arrival at the door, you hand her the apron and chef’s hat and you ensure that the entire “gastronomic” experience is a subtle blend of seductive fun. Flirt with her the entire time, maintain eye contact, drop subtle innuendos particularly if using phallic type foods such as carrots, cucumbers, sausages, bananas…etc. A few “French” names, for example “poisson en croute avec” thrown in for effect can be far more seductive than the English equivalent of “stodgy fish pie” or ”mash and peas” for that matter. If her fingers are dribbled in batter, sauce or anything edible, take her fingers and lovingly lick them, sucking gently whilst gazing into her eyes. She should feel the effect of this from head to toe.

When passing her, stretching for utensils, putting aside the dirty dishes, make sure you are constantly in contact with her body, occasionally kiss her ear, her neck, nibble her ear lobe, gently caress her buttocks, so that you entire physical being is seducing her whilst the two of you are standing apart. If you persist with this lavish attention, you’ll find her inner oven ready for baking long before the starters have been served and she is more than willing to nibble on your “banana surprise”.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice in his book, Getting her back. Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.

Making Up Ideas - Tips from Michael Webb Books

Making Up Ideas

Romantic Weekend Away –

Yes, weekends away are expensive, but special occasions should be celebrated and what’s more, you are trying to win her back. What could be more special than that? It is important to plan ahead, save up (if necessary borrow from your friend if urgency doesn’t permit you the luxury of time). If the break up happened over the winter period, then look for romantic accommodation with a fireplace. Fireplaces are one of the symbols of romance, and there are several exciting activities that can be done in front of a fireplace! Not only does fire give warmth, it creates a cozy, romantic atmosphere which is perfect for cuddling and sexy dates.

If you are not eating inside the room/hotel or where-ever you are staying, make sure you eat dessert in front of the fire place so take your own, either chocolate mousse or strawberries and cream, but definitely something she would enjoy and USE it, don’t just eat it! That’s what belly-buttons are for – collecting excess chocolate mousse that needs a serious ‘licking’.

At Home – Dinner for Two

This one involves a little more effort, but is great if you want to show off your culinary skills! If not, make sure you cook something simple, alternatively, organize the meal to be cooked elsewhere and delivered before time. A great dish is also the fondue – a feast for two. When you organize this romantic make-up dinner party for start with hand-written invite on your partner’s pillow in the morning, or if she has moved out, an enticing email or text in the afternoon.

Dress smartly for the occasion (clothing items can always be removed later on) and make sure you plan well ahead. Set the mood with her favorite music, turn the heat up in the kitchen. If you are intending to cook, invite her to join in but no bossing allowed! The sense of accomplishment after cooking a delicious meal together will help bring you and her closer together, particularly if things have been somewhat strained. By the end of the evening, if all goes according to plan, she’d willingly agree to a shared bubble bath or sensuous massage.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice for Getting Her Back. Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.

Lip O' Seduction - Tips from Micheal Webb books

Lip O' Seduction

You’ve got her to agree to going on a make up date with you but you are both aware of the need to the trust between the two of you to be rebuilt. So it’s time to take it slow. Agree on the limitations between the two of you upfront so there is no misunderstanding because believe you me, when you have finished with your lips, she’ll be begging for it!

Okay so agreement at hand, decision to take it slow right! However taking it slow doesn’t necessarily mean just holding hands. You’d be surprised as to how erotic, exciting and anticipatory restricting your physical contact can actually be.

There are many types or sorts of kissing that dangle on a continuum that ranges from foreplay to after play like a g-string on a wash line. These kisses range from playful kisses like the chocolate kiss to the cold, peeled grapes kiss. Have I got your attention now?

The Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kisses, but now is your time to invent more! Pay attention to the areas of her body you have neglected before. Just because you are kissing her doesn’t mean you have to restrict yourself to her lips. Why don’t you pay lavish attention to her legs, working your way along her legs, always remembering your self-control. Start at her little toes, to the top of her leg, then back down to her ankles, knees and so on, occasionally blowing against the back of her legs, alternating between hard and lighter breaths. This technique is sure to leave her begging for more!

There is also the Chocolate Kiss. What women wouldn’t enjoy this one? It’s always best to use a smooth, creamy chocolate that melts easily in your mouth. The smoother the better, obviously! Once the chocolate starts to melt, kiss her and twirl your tongues around hers.

One could also use hard but small pieces of candy, mix up the colors and try and guess at the different flavors, the fun part being trying to steal her bits of candy as she does yours.

Other creative contributors to “sweet kisses” are caramel, strawberries and cream, which involve the seductive licking of spoons, feeding one another strawberries, exchanging the strawberries with the whipping cream between each other’s mouth.

Champagne or fizzy drink can provide a different sensation so the more fizz, the better. When you are ready to kiss her, take a sip and keep some in your mouth, dribble some into your partners’ mouth gently so that you share more than spill into one another’s mouth.

Okay, so we’ve spoken about lips, but what’s inside the lips besides the tongue are the teeth. Now that’s an interesting thought. Starting slowly, simply graze parts of her body as you kiss her, using the edges of your teeth almost like fingernails, or as you would your tongue, lightly tickling her shoulders, arms and hands. Suck on each one of her fingers and, as you remove them from your mouth, softly apply pressure using your teeth.

If she enjoyed this, try lightly biting the back of her neck or other body parts in between passionate kissing. Don’t overdo it and remember, when you feel you are going to lose control – STOP! Your agreement was to take it slow, to build trust and I can assure you, by the time the next date night arrives, she will be ready to jump your bones!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back
Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.

Customize Your Own Version of Jamie Oliver's / Michael Webb's "Naked Chef"

Customize Your Own Version of Jamie Oliver's / Michael Webb's "Naked Chef"

The way to her heart is through her stomach while watching your hot buns bent over the gas cooker! Preparation is important here! Make sure your home is neat, tidy and most of all, comfortable. If you have kids, make sure you have organized a babysitter who will be on standby for “overtime”.

Set the mood by sending the invitation to her office, leave it on her bed, in her briefcase or even send a romantic electronic invite for a two-person romantic dinner.

Make sure you plan the menu well ahead of time, complete your shopping list and if you are planning to do the cooking, make sure you stick to a simple menu that leaves time and energy for the seduction.

Now’s the time for “dress up” or should we call it “dress down”. Choose a masculine apron and strip naked, leaving your front covered with just your butt cheeks showing. Obviously you would have ensured that you are freshly showered, wearing your best aftershave and have removed any unwanted hair she might have an aversion to (be it back or butt hair for that matter!). Make a slightly exaggerated but “cheeky” effort in transforming your lounge/dining room into a sensual, romantic setting. Bend over catching her eyeful as you lay out the scented candles; carefully chosen mood music; and table settings, adjust the suitable temperature heating (comfortable enough to disrobe in), check the working CD/IPOD.

Now it’s time for the “main course”. Act the part of the gentleman and tell her you are going to “dress for dinner”, and come out in your TUX (or as fancy as you have). If she objects, saying that she would rather you stay as you are – then obey the lady, after all, the intention is to get naked anyway.

Surprise her by playing a little scene out of the movie (9½ weeks) by blindfolding her; feeding her little portions from the plate and making her guess what food it is. If she gets it wrong, she has to pay a forfeit and what forfeit is entirely up to you – use your imagination and choose one that she would feel comfortable with. Reverse the roles and allow her to do the same to you. Feeding one another is a highly erotic aspect of foreplay that bodes extremely well in building up anticipation.

Last but not least, make sure you have scattered red rose petals all over the area you plan to use to make love, whether it is the bedroom, fireplace or next to the hot tub!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back. For the complete collection of Michael Webb Books go to the website now!

It Takes Two to Tango - Getting her back- Michael Webb

It Take Two to Tango

Sign up for “Sensuous Samba or Tantalizing Tango”

Do you want to whirl her back into your life? If this is the case, then what better way than to sign up for ballroom dancing lessons but to specifically concentrate on three of the most erotic, sexy and romantic dances, namely the Tango, Samba and the Rumba. If this is moving too fast given your transgression that made you split in the first place, you can also choose to participate in the more innocuous generic ballroom type dancing lessons. Most importantly though, the success factor here is to organize private classes so that it is just the two of you together and not only will this be an emotional journey in through which the two of you will re-bond but it will be filled with fun, romance, eroticism, and furthermore, give both of you an “edge” in confidence.

“It takes 2 to Tango!” If you start out with the Tango (originating in Buenos Aires), which incorporates both the elements of an emotional and dramatic dance that allows for great expression and drama and can be extremely cathartic especially if she is still angry with you. It allows for a lot of improvisation so of course, the two of you could have immense fun as you learn the steps. If nothing else, you can entice her back into your life with your humor, your willingness to look and act like a fool and the fact that you both will have a lot of laughs.

Now with the Samba, there is an ambience of playfulness, reminiscent of the Rio Carnival and so the two of you will have a fantastic time learning this dance together. Not only that but if you get the rhythm of your hips right, there is no way she is going to be able to resist you. The intensity of contact, your closeness and perspiration are all part of an enormous aphrodisiac for her. By the time you two have finished learning this dance routine, she should be eating out of your hands. But wait, the best is yet to come!

Saving the best for last, the Rumba is a poetic story of love and eroticism between two lovers and is said to be a “vertical expression of a horizontal wish”. This dance is “hot property” and the climax to all. Once you two have finished twirling around the studio dance floor, not only will all the anger and stress be history, but the two of you will be racing home to tear each other’s clothes off. This is a true winner!

The best part of all of this is that if the two of you enjoy taking these private lessons then consider taking more dance lessons. The beauty is that ballroom dancing, (in fact any dancing) comes with a whole host of benefits, from improving your self-confidence, increasing your social skills, posture and grace, never mind the obvious health benefits. It allows you be close to her and is exciting and exhilarating. You can set the pace by dancing slow, fast, close, cheek-to-cheek but however you do it, remember dancing is fun, fun, fun and you get to stay fit and keep in shape too! What a bonus!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back. and for the complete collection of Michael Webb books, visit the website.

Re-invent Your Sex Life - Tips from Michael Webb books

Re-invent Your Sex Life

Tips on Getting Your Ex-Girlfriend or Wife Back

Ok so you have got her to agree to a “make up date”, your heartfelt and sincere apology has been accepted, she has agreed to give you one more chance and finally, the cherry on top – has accepted your suggestion of “coffee” at your place.

Moving on from that first “reunion” date, take time for each other whenever possible. Get the idea out of your heads that sex must happen at night in the bedroom. Pretend you are teenagers dating and if you get the opportunity to be intimate with your partner, take it!

Take time out to be romantic again as if you were in the first stages of your relationship. Do all the things you used to take for granted before like opening the car door for her, sending her flowers or surprising her with her favorite meal, delivered in person at lunch time or spontaneously arrive with the meal on her doorstep. It’s the little things that count.

We all know that women are hard to read, saying no when they mean yes, saying they are fine when they’re not and cry for just about any reason under the sun – so approach with caution, listen to what she is saying because they always provide subtle hints to what it is they really do what.

Keep your promises, especially if you have let her down before and whilst you don’t have to promise them the world, if you say you are going to call her back straight away then make sure you do. It is so important to keep your word. You have let her down with trust before, so if you don’t prove your trust with an issue as small as this, rest assured, there is no chance of gaining it in other more important areas.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. Discover all of Micheal Webb Books at the website.

Road Trips and Picnics -Tips from Michael Webb

Road Trips and Picnics

Banquet on a Blanket for Two

There is something to be said about leaving the city behind, getting away for a day, enjoying whatever beautiful views nature offers you, stuffing yourself silly and then lay back with a glass of wine or whatever liquid takes your fancy. When the sun is shining there's only one thing to do...and that is, go on a picnic. Now picnics are not only good for the happily involved but they are essential when trying to win her back! Obviously the weather plays an important part but remember, you can picnic both indoors and outdoors. All it takes is a little creative imagination.

The Romantic Picnic
Most importantly you must find a place that’s sheltered from the wind yet has a lovely view. Set the scene with candles or lanterns, and your loved one (yes her) will be eating out of the palm of your hand! For dinner include:

· Fresh, organic vegetables such as baby carrots, cucumber fingers, baby sweet corn, broccoli, cherry tomatoes and serve with dips such as guacamole, hummus or chopped tomato in cottage cheese, suggests planning and preparation and you can grill the vegetables beforehand for something a little different.

· Cold meats with cheeses such as Camembert and Brie also work well as snacks. The cheese can also be eaten with fruit or crackers.

· It’s always a good idea to stick to finger foods for romantic picnics; this way you can feed each other.

· For something more substantial, make a variety of wraps with cottage cheese and pineapple filling; and pita bread with stuffed with tuna salad, feta and avocado, or feta and carrot.

· A bottle of wine or bubbly makes it a special occasion, but remember to first check whether alcohol is allowed at your picnic spot of choice — and pack two of your prettiest glasses for the occasion.

· Round off your rendezvous with some decadent dark chocolate-tipped strawberries.

Although it seems as though this is a daunting task, and it really doesn’t have to be. A little planning beforehand can make you look like a pro and what better way to impress her than if you can honestly tell her you prepared it yourself. Certain foods are easy and quick to prepare such as cheese and crackers, muffins, grapes, strawberries (these always score big points for the romantic), chips and dips etc., always work well. Throw in a bottle of wine or some champagne or if going for something non-alcoholic - a chilled fresh fruit juice. When organizing your picnic basket the utensils you bring with are very important. Make sure you also pack enough blankets and pillows for extra comfort.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back.Discover all of Michael Webb Books at the website.

Pampering Your Princess- Michael Webb Books - Getting her Back

Pampering Your Princess

Tips on Getting Your Ex-Girlfriend or Wife Back

Not one woman can resist the offer of a pamper session particularly if you choose the location and theme with “reconciliation in mind”. If you are serious about getting her back then you need to invest a little time researching a health and wellness club or spa close enough to your home town that allows for a drive of “mystique”. By this I mean that once you have located the ideal location, set up the romantic spa for two setting in a private room, with hot tubs, and all the trimmings to boot, then you need to “entice” her to give you this one “last” chance and ask her to trust you as you blindfold her prior to driving to the location. Of course, you would have notified the Spa / Wellness centers all that you are planning for your romantic rendezvous.

This will build up immense anticipation over and above earning you brownie points for all the effort you have gone to. Also depending on the weather, time of year etc, you can choose an array of treatments for the two of you ranging from sensuous back and body massages under the blue skies besides the lapping water of the plunge pools, or the heated pools and steam rooms. Whatever the location, the backdrop of mountains, beaches, forests, vineyards etc, all play part of the important intended affect of romance and serious intentions.

It is important to leave the full body and head massages for last and that you each have a glass of champagne or wine prior to these massages. This allows for a little relaxation and lowers any defenses that may still be lurking despite the relaxing environment. Once you have had a little bubbly or wine, then showing a sign of sexy strength, take her hand and lead her to the massage tables. (Obviously you need to find out where they are before hand so you don’t look like an idiot when you get lost).

Ensure you ask the massage therapists to use only the sensuous, relaxing essential massage oils and you need to overwhelm all 5 of her senses. Whilst the two of you are lying on your stomachs with your faces down, you must warm your hands with the same heated sensuous oil and take over from the masseuse. Obviously you are going to have a few little tips prior to doing this so that she doesn’t guess that it is you massaging her straight away. It is important to start at her feet, slowly, no matter how tempted you are at this point because you will find this procedure highly arousing. You continue in a “professional” relaxing way for a while and then you start to subtly modify the massages into a more personal, erotic technique without overstepping the mark or becoming invasive. As this point you start to make your way towards her upper body and massage her shoulders and neck area. At this point, the two of you should be alone in the secluded massage/pamper area and after you have gently and seductively massaged her neck area, you must whisper into her ear, asking her to turn around and face you. The combination of the relaxing oils, massage and effort that you have gone to, should allow her to be highly receptive of your apology as you ask her for another chance. At this point you need to emphasize how by creating this unforgettable experience for her, your intentions are sincere as is your apology. How could she resist?

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at

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Whispering Alluring Sweet Everything's

Tips on Getting Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

It’s Sunday night, 2 weeks after SHE left you. You’re wandering around your apartment like a lost fart in a perfume factory unsure of what to do, how to do it or when for that matter. You miss her so much your insides ache.

Forget about a country posy flower delivery with a weak apology. The flowers will end up in the trash as will the crumpled note that follows. Don’t waste your money this is the time for sweating bullets. Yep, if you want her back it’ll be just as painful, uncharacteristic and involve a complete lifestyle change. This means not only are you going to have to climb insurmountable mountains in the next couple of weeks to charm her back into your life, but you are going to have to do this as part of your natural appeal every day. Yes I said “every day!” Think of it as though you’re “flossing your teeth”. Your wonderful relationship with your dentist ‘Dr Beamish’ plummets as the fillings and caps start to increase. Your “orthodontic relationship” has been compromised and to reverse the ravages of all that “resentful plaque” build-up, you need to floss, not only daily, but after every meal as well.

However, winning her back is not as easy as an orthodontic metaphor! Guaranteed a main issue she had with you was your poor communication and inability to express how you feel, compliment her, notice when she’d had her hair cut or colored, or, how on the rare occasions you took her out (inevitably to some bar that was crowded and noisy), you failed to tell her how beautiful she looked. That is what I mean by communication and then some. So now you have been excommunicated yourself. Do you see where this is going?

Top priority is that you have to re-engage with her in a way that not only blows her socks off with regards to the new, open and “in touch with my feelings” communicable you, but also romancing her in such a way, she is left breathless and unable to resist.

You are going to do whatever it takes, leaving hand written romantic messages in all the unexpected places that she could find them, designed to intrigue and build into orgasmic climax, figuratively of course. No use rushing the goalie posts here! These must be followed up by text messages that are sincere, offer a little bit more intrigue until you finally (over the period of a week) invite her to a romantic venue where you pull out all the stops in your heartfelt apology, your vow to never take her for granted again, and your sincere intention in letting her drive the pace if she would graciously agree to your absolute last chance in showing her how much you love her.

You do this, and more, making sure your plan is well orchestrated and you have thought of everything, and guaranteed she will be yours again. I just have one word of caution. Don’t botch-up again buddy! This time, you say what you mean and you do what you say. If not, you won’t have a snowball’s chance in hell to win her back, EVER!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice Get Her Back
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Get Her Back for Good - Michael Webb books

Time to Walk the Talk

Tips on Getting Your Ex-Girlfriend or Wife Back

Talk is cheap and you need money to pay the rent - or a better way of stating it is you need to fill the hole in your heart that’s been left there after SHE walked out. It’s time to act rather than speak. What is it they say, “Actions speak louder than words”. She’s not taking your calls so these are the type of things you need to do:

· If she drives her own car, leaving a red rose on her windscreen with a hand note from you explaining that you know words are cheap and that you ask her to give you a chance to show her why the two of you are meant to be together. You need to leave a little hint of a proposed romantic rendezvous that gives enough information to show your sincerity but not too much so as to create an allure.

· If she has moved out and is living with a friend/sister or parents, make sure that you do the same but leave it on her/their doorstep at a time you know she will definitely find it.

· Ensure you have set the romantic rendezvous for the following evening (which you have planned well in advance) so that she does not have time to get 100 negative input ideas from over-protective friends and family.

· Deck yourself out in the most attractive NEW clothes you can find, have a haircut, shave and use an aftershave she cannot resist.

· Choose a restaurant that you two have never been to, that is extremely romantic, make sure you book the secluded corner table, even ask for a separate dining room/area if possible and arrive EARLY.

· When she gets to the table (which she will if you have done what we tell you), then make sure you stand up as she approaches and treat her like a queen, pulling out her chair, and after you sit down, look at her, drink her in and hold her eyes with yours as you tell her how exceptionally beautiful she looks. Before she can scoff at her compliment (which she might view as a superficial compliment), rise from you chair, get down to eye level next her while she is seated in her chair and put your finger gently on her lips and ask her to just listen to what you have to say before she responds.

· Staying where you are, you tell her how much she means to you, what a complete idiot you have been, how having her gone has left a hole greater than all the black holes in space, in your life. Tell her you are prepared to do anything and keep on doing anything for as long as it takes, even your entire lifetime, to prove this to her.

· When you leave alone that night (a must in this case), ask her permission to kiss her and then kiss her with hedonistic ferocity that leaves her hungry for more, then gently pull back.

· Make sure she has a ride home, whether with you, a cabby or walk her to her car, like a gentleman.

· When you get home, text her telling her how much you enjoyed the evening, tell her how beautiful she looked and that you can’t wait to see her again.

· Follow up and confirm your next date and don’t leave it too long. There is a reason they call it the “art” of seduction. It involves creativity, patience and time.

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General Ideas for Re-working Your Break Up

When you are faced with problems in your relationship, it would be easy to walk away and let it fail, while it is harder to stay and work it through. When you are faced with these issues, to keep it in perspective, think of the way you felt when you first met and the reason you fell in love. Remember the good and the bad times you shared, and what makes it worth it.

You know that it takes two to tango, and this applies to your relationship as well. An effort from only one party is not going to prove to be successful.

Many relationships fail for a number of reasons here are a few of the common ones:

· High expectations generally happen when entering a relationship viewing everything through rose-colored glasses/spectacles. When these expectations are not met disappointment and frustration soon follow.

· Financial issues are not taboo between couples. A household budget should be discussed early so you know what is expected of you. It is important to speak up about money issues when they first arise, and not scream about it when you both are angry.

· Manage your stress. Recognize what stresses you both out and do whatever you can to not fall prey. Too much stress can hamper one’s ability to think and respond properly.

· Compromise and do things as a couple. Go to a football match with him and take her shopping, or go on holiday together. Don’t be afraid to speak up and tell your significant other what you want and need. No offense to you guys, but you don’t take hints well, so learn to LISTEN, not just hear! Part of listening also involves not get defensive when she speaks to you, be genuine, compassionate, understanding and sincere.

· Spice up your relationship and go out and have a night on the town together. Bring home flowers and chocolates for no particular reason. Apologize if you have done something to upset her, and surprise her with something that she’s been wanting but do it for “no reason whatsoever” not because it’s her birthday or Valentine’s day.

Both of you have to be willing to make this relationship work. Don’t scream, argue and curse, rather sit down, call a meeting and be reasonable and logical about it. Try not to get too emotional, speak calmly when you say what you have to say.

There are an abundance of tips that can save your relationship, but like with all advice, it may not work in all situations. An understanding of your partner and what your relationship requires can provide you with what you need.

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How to Get Her Back -- For Good

Let’s say you are one of those men who have been in a “plodding” relationship for a couple of years now, in fact, so mundane the “plod”, you can’t even remember how many years. Even worse, you forget your anniversaries, pleading a frenetic work schedule and make flippant promises to make good but they never materialize. Seriously, who needs to put that much effort in right? Wasn’t it Douglas Adams who wrote, “I am so amazingly cool you could keep a side of meat in me for a month and I am so hip I have difficulty seeing over my pelvis?” That’s how confident you felt about yourself and your relationship right? Those back-slapping buddies of yours who convince you that forgetting the 10^th anniversary is acceptable. Does this all sound familiar?

Then along comes the realization that she’s been making a lot of noise on being taken for granted, under-appreciated, the relationship being one-sided, ‘yadda, yadda, yadda’ and you just kept right on ignoring her. Why not, you’ve heard it all before!

So now even after much deliberation and your beleaguered aptitude of hindsight, you still can’t figure out why she left you. So how are the relationships of your beer-swilling, jerky chewing, ass-scratching friends? Hmmn, thought so. Either they are divorced, separated; sadly single cradling some alcoholic snifter instead of holding the sweet soft skin of her satiny cheeks between their clammy little paws. So here’s the cruncher – “How is their advice and your previous approach to relationships working for you???!”

It’s not is it? Let me guess, once you realized she’d split, you phoned all your buddies and off you went on a “mock-stag” night to celebrate your “new found freedom” and it worked for about two hours until you got home and found the empty unmade bed, the overflowing trash and crumpled shirt and trousers still in need of ironing. That’s when the epiphany hit you like a wet cold fishy slap on the forehead– it was you who’d been who’d been dumped at the alter!

You ‘brave’ it out for a few more days and by the end of the week, although you would rather stick a pin in your eye than admit it, you are LOST without her. There is this huge chasm in your life that she used to fill and it was only after she’d gone, that you realized how important she was to you. Not only that but suddenly you start to see her as every other horny guy out there sees who and you realize you had one “Good Looking Cooking!” You need to win her back and fast! Now this is where you need to take a long, hard look at the relationship you used to have with her, or more honestly, a long hard look at what it is you did that drove her away. This is where the Holy Grail of Relationship Fix-it’s in getting HER back, begins!

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Making Up After Breaking Up

Out on the Town – Restaurants

If the two of you enjoyed eating out when it was working and she has given you the benefit of the doubt with a second chance, then spice up your dates by visiting different restaurants around town. It is always exciting to try different cultural foods and different venues. However, the two of you have always enjoyed a specific restaurant, use it to your advantage when you go on the romantic make up date. If you know that your she enjoys drinking a specific red wine at the restaurant, phone ahead and ask that the wine be ready at the table when the two of you arrive. Remember – Romance, particularly making up romance is the reason behind this action - like your mother told you, “it’s the thought that counts,” and little things like this can make her feel extra-special and that you have changed.

Out on the Town – Fast Food

Okay so not everyone can afford to eat out and although it might not be healthy, fast food really tastes good! And eating it once in a while won’t kill you. You don’t need to spend a fortune to impress her but you do need to show that you have spent time and thought and that you are genuine in your quest to apologize, prove to her that you have changed and that you appreciate her. Order the things you love the most and then find your old/new romantic spot, spread a blanket, sit on a wall or just sit in the car and watch the sun set whilst you feast. Once the tummies are full, it is easier to engage in conversation particularly if an apology is due. Surprise her with a pre-planned “take out” or “store bought” dessert – her favorite. She will not be expecting this and will be touched at your consideration.

Fast food is also a good way to organize a picnic in a hurry. For example: If your partner has had a really long day at work, and doesn’t feel like cooking dinner, pack a picnic blanket in the car and take them to their favorite fast food joint. You can then take the blanket down to the beach or a local park (where it’s safe) and enjoy a relaxing picnic together. If safety is a concern, set up the picnic in your garden at home. If the weather is not suitable, picnic in your lounge in front of the fireplace and roast some marshmallows together.

These ideas are simple, affordable and yet show that you are sincere, contrite and have a “romantic” buried deep inside you somewhere just waiting to “burst” out.

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Your Manner of Approach

If you're interested in learning how to win HER back, here’s a bit of information that might help. It may not be easy and it might not even work but if you don’t at least try, you will never know. You also need to understand that some relationships are just not meant to work and if that is the case with yours, then don’t even waste your time and effort. Rather look else where for comfort and a new beginning. However, the main objective here is to “win her back” and so this is how we do it.

Firstly, you need to be in control of your emotions. This is not an easy task at present, emotions are running high for both of you, ranging from anger to grief and shock so it is difficult to try and focus. It requires both conscious effort and control and you need to keep your “eye on the ball” as it could be tough, time consuming and sometimes, demoralizing. But if you stay focused, then you have the opportunity to prove to yourself and everybody around you, especially your ex that you're capable to deal with difficult situations.

When staying in control, you have to keep a mind to not retaliate. Most guys retaliate after a breakup and this definitely will make things worse than they already are. “Getting her back” or “making her want you more by making out with her friend” will NOT work. It will only validate her mistrust of you and push her away even further. You need to give your ex time along, avoid contacting her, especially immediately after the break up. This is probably one of the most difficult things to do, but it is necessary and it also gives her a chance to miss you.

The last thing you need to do is “hibernate” as it is often tempting to stay at home along following a rough breakup and but this is the worse thing you could do. Not only will you be seen as weak, but it will exacerbate your situation even further driving home your sense of loneliness. It is important that you stay in touch with your friends and continue to enjoy life. You need to keep yourself busy.

If you want to know how to approach your ex, talk to her friends (if they agree to talk to you), if not, be persistent and let them see you are genuinely regretful. The more information you can gather on your ex’s state of mind and her feelings towards you, the better. Research, organization and preparation hand in hand together with a romantic ambiance, environment, intention or occasion should work hands down any time. Once you have an idea of where her mind is at, you can plan your approach accordingly and design a “come back” strategy that will not only impress her, but “blow her socks off”.

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Win Her Back With a Letter

“I wrote a letter to my love and on the way I dropped it”

Here is a question that guys have all the time. Is writing letters to get your ex back really a good idea? It is indeed, provided you don’t “drop the ball” in your letter writing! Take heed gentlemen! There are many people that write letters, text messages, e-mails and just about every other form of text-based correspondence that you can think of on a daily basis. Many of these people will resort to that form of communication when trying to get an ex-lover to fall in love with them again but does it work?

There is something to be said about writing a letter, particularly one written in your own hand. In this day and age, many people break up over the phone, over an instant messaging program, through mail or even by text-message and as a result, there is no closure so people tend to hold grudges. They say that the most honest way to break up with someone is in person, so surely this should work the opposite way, that is, if you want to get your ex back?

Absolutely, however it is all in what you say, how you say it and when you send it and how you offer it to her. Some of the simple guidelines you can follow range from using neutral, soft colored stationery, a flair pen that compliments your own hand writing, and the time and place you choose to sit down and write it. Remember that this is probably going to be a keepsake of hers, so make sure that you write from your heart, addressing her in a manner befitting, i.e. “to my darling Jacqueline”, call her “the love of your life” and start the letter off by telling her why you are writing to her. Remind her of the reasons you fell in love with her, how much she changed your life for the better and how you cannot imagine living without her. Recall some of the special memories you shared, and all the qualities of hers that you adore.

You need to make a concerted effort in making an impression and you need to sound sincere and genuine at the same time. If you are not sure of how or what to write, do some research on the Internet or visit a library. There are many ways to find inspiration. If she has a favorite author or poet, find a quote of his/hers that suits the message you are trying to convey, or better yet, visit The Romantic and see what ideas Michael Webb has for writing a romantic letter.

When closing up on completion of your letter make sure it is neatly folded and put it into a matching envelope with her address on the outside, if you are intending to mail it and even if you do hand deliver it to her doorstop and slip it under the door. Then you need to be patient and wait. If you have heeded my advice above, I can assure you, you will get the response you desire so make sure you are ready for the reunion.

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Girls Just Wanna Have Fun

Invite her on a journey to rediscover her inner child. Make plans for an upcoming Saturday or make sure you have booked a day off work for her with her boss as guaranteed this will be her first line of defense in turning you down. Remind her of those carefree days of running around in the park with her friends, swinging on swing sets, making snow cones and catching fireflies at dusk? Remind her of the time when her biggest worry was which flavor of ice cream to choose? Whilst it might seem immature, just work with me. Call her up and invite her on a “play date”. If she starts to question you, you can offer a slight hint but the intention is create an air of mystery and fun. Then you need to start working on the type of activities you will take part in. You could consider some of the following activities:

· Watch a kiddies movie, (lighthearted, animation, fantasy land)

· Draw pictures and create Collages – create your own visionary boards for romance and this can give you clues as to what she needs from you.

· Write stories and then finish each other’s stories… Once upon a time… and you’d be surprised at what comes out plus it can give you a clue as to her state of mind.

· Make up a game or participate in your favorite game from childhood

· Go to the park, go camping, visit the zoo, hang out with your own, hers, your siblings, friends, kids. Offer to baby sit the kids for a day because often just being around kids can make finding your own inner child a lot easier. Children have a fresh look on things, and sometimes when we get in bad moods it is because we are so jaded with the world around us. Experiencing life through the eyes of a child can really do wonders for naturally rediscovering a good mood.

· If possible, take a trip to Disneyland or some theme park.

· Blindfold one another, spin one another around and then see how you fall and feel all dizzy. Try feeding each other blindfolded. This can soon lead to something more romantic and intimate.

· Buy some play dough and make shapes.

· Play 20 questions, pull out some old board games, Scrabble, Monopoly, an old deck of cards.

· Build a tent in the living room out of sheets, pillows and whatever else you can lay your hands on.

· Ride your bikes, or borrow some other kids bikes and if this is too immature for you, go for more mature bikes and hire a Harley Davidson for an hour or two (assuming you have your license and all protective gear) and go riding off in the sunset with the wind in your hair.

The intention with a “play date” with your ex is to just let all the angst go and live and let live. Enjoy the moment and your youth, no matter what age you are. I know of couples who still dine out on the ‘mischievous practical jokes’ they got up to when they experienced with the “play date” idea. After all, what have you got to lose? Your dignity? Since when do children worry about dignity?

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Looking Into the Mirror of Your Relationship

Everyone, sometime in their life has been disappointed in love. Breaking up is hard to go through, especially if you are not ready for it. If, after a breakup, you realize you still want your ex back, you need to be proactive about it. In order to do so, you need to reflect back on your relationship and try and understand where it went wrong.

Generally speaking, most relationships follow a predictable pattern. There is the honeymoon period where you first meet someone and everything is wonderful and new. They can do no wrong and you can do no wrong in their eyes. The sex is fantastic, the chemistry electric but after while, this starts to feel more comfortable rather than exciting. You start to adjust to one another, make compromises, and at this point, the relationship changes again. I call this the “establishment” period. At this point, cohabitation often occurs, a little “nesting” starts to rear its head and “she” and “he” become “we”.

A little further down the line comes the “disenchantment” stage where suddenly the little quirks that amused you and you were willing to overlook now start to bother you and in fact, often become the “bone of contention” as a means to “pick a fight”. This is the true test of a relationship and it is this particular phase of the relationship that you need to reflect upon. If you believe you can save your relationship after this deep reflection then you need to do the following:

1. Apologize!

So many “fools of love” out there say, “treat em mean, keeps em keen” and they are so far off the beaten track that they will never find their way on the path to true love. It takes strength of character and great sacrifice to apologize particularly if you do not believe you were in the wrong. However, sometimes it really is worth “losing a battle to win a war”. Once you have taken this first step, the rest is not that difficult to follow. Remember, it takes two people to have a successful relationship and knowing exactly what to apologize for is crucial.

2. Talking things through, face to face

Invite your ex to meet you at a time and place convenient for you both where you can sit down and talk. The idea is to be quietly assertive, not forceful, but intent enough to get her to agree to meet you face to face. You both need to chat about the issues objectively, without blame and maturely. If necessary, suggest couple counseling with a therapist so she can see that you are serious in your quest.

3. Give her some time and space – don’t pressurize her

This is probably one of the hardest things to do but by allowing your ex space not only gives her a chance to calm down and reflect, but also to miss you and it is true that as time passes, one only remembers the good times. By allowing a little time to pass, takes the heat of the anger out of the equation and emotions to settle into places of calm. This can only work in your favor.

4. Treat her like a lady

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to take her on a triple Treat of Champagne Breakfast, Balloon and Boat Ride but it does mean you need to do things differently! She is the most important person on earth to you; show her this in your actions, not only in your words!

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice in Getting Her Back.. Discover all of Michael Webbs Books at the website.